I usually make boundaries clear if its an issue. For the most part I don't mind someone violently my character if its well done and has a good reason for it to happen. Buuuuttt so many rpers do the deed and ignore the damage done to said character. I've had some really gross rpers act like fictional non con is no worse then a paper cut and the character should be fine.
This is the sort of thing that I mean, actually. For example, I'm in a 1x1 wherein my partner is looking for noncon, selfish and harmful dom characters. This is fine with me - hot, in a lot of ways. But the partner choking and using her
is not going to care about her state afterwards. There is damage done - but it doesn't feel right
for me to decide the level of damage - or lack thereof - resulting from it. It doesn't feel right
for me to decide what mixture of disgust, pain and trauma the character takes forward, and what level of sick pride in having garnered whatever praise that character earned from the abuser.
And I use that word advisedly. The character
is gross, twisted, deviant. He's not a main character in the way my 1x1 partner's character is centric to the story - but he is centric to the story from my partner's character's perspective
at this time. So ... walking the line between my partners preferences while keeping awareness of her boundaries is good and all, but my goal is to push the edges of those boundaries
without requiring a red flag be dropped.
This is
difficult. Thoughtless abuse is easy. Thoughtful abuse does not seem to be.
Again, all of this is my own opinion, and I cannot speak for other writers - only my own experience, which is limited.
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