he snorted, very amused now. he'd forgotten about that Hammer joke. "Thor didn't even get the joke." Johnny huffed, looking just as amused as Steve. "he's incorrigible." Steve agreed with a chuckle. "yes, traffic colors. these work in two ways. if Tony says them, they mean one thing, and if i ask for them they mean another. for example, if Tony shouts, without being prompted, 'Yellow' that means he's upset, he either upset himself, i upset him, or he's being overwhelmed in a bad way and he needs a moment to compose himself and that i need to slow down and back off a little bit. if he yells 'Red' then his mind went sideways or he's too overwhelmed and is drowning and i need to immidiatly stop what i'm doing and try to calm him down and comfort him and bring him back up a little. on the other hand, if i ask for his colors, that means i'm not sure where he's sitting or how i'm doing. Green means 'i like this, keep going'. Yellow means 'i'm a little nervous' or 'i'm getting a little overwhelmed, please slow down a little'. Red means he's scared, or he's at the edge of shouting yellow or red on his own and i need to stop and calm him down and comfort him." he explained. "if any color but Green is shouted, then we do not pick up on what i was doing until Tony is of a mind enough to talk about what happened and why. it is never, EVER a subs fault if they 'color' or Safe-word out. the mental well being of the Submissive is the most important." he explained. "as for Spangles, that is a safe word. that means everything stops. he says that then i immediately release him from any bonds, take off or take out any toys and back off and do not touch him until he's calmed down." Steve admitted. "The Safe-word literally means 'No' and to keep going when a Sub says there safe-word is tantamount to rape." Steve explained, running his fingers through Tony's hair as he explained.
"now, Tony is a very challenging sub." he admitted. "it has taken several years to get him to the stage where he will actually use the colors and the safe word. he's what is known as a 'no limit' Sub. that means he didn't know, and still sometimes doesn't know his own limits." he explained. "adding to that, he has previously been abused, by adults and by other Doms and even other Subs. making him an extremely difficult, and temperamental Sub. he can drop himself completely by accident, or even on purpose, and he has very odd quirks." he admitted. "neither is very good for him mentally to say the least. speaking of which, if you don't mind, i've made a list. please refrain from using any of these words while Tony is down." he asked, handing Sab a list. it included things like Bitch, Whore, Slut, Cuntboy, Pussy, Blowjob(added because if Tony heard the word he would want to give one and would get very upset when he wasn't allowed to) and others that upset Tony. they had decided that this would all be nonsexual, for Tony and Sabrina's comfort. "Tony also doesn't like it when i talk to much while i'm down. so if i suddenly go quiet and focus all of m attention on him, that's why. he's not down far enough for it to bother him too much just yet, so i'm trying to explain what i can now. he knows if i'm talking, then i'm not focused on him, which leads to him feeling alone and abandoned. never a good thing for a sub to feel."
