Difficult and uncommon kinks to find partners for

[Lurker]

If you're into erotic fighting, look up "ultimate surrender"

Edit:
Note to self, do not post from phone.
"erotic fighting", dammit, not "writing fighting"

 

[Temptationist]

Breath control and orgasm control for my female characters.
Meaning, the man is controlling the female.

The reason it's hard to find is not so much finding partners who are willing to do it, but more working the kink into the plot and also DOING THE KINK PROPERLY. Both controls are very calculated concepts that require coordination from both partners.

Also, pregnancy.
RPers always want to exclude standard protection but they never allow the possibility of pregnancy for me as a female writer unless discussed. I have had a select few writers in which we pre-discussed the possibility of my character getting pregnant. But normally, it's a big no.

For me, the pregnancy is less of a kink, and more of a "for sake of reality" type of thing. The chances of a girl becoming pregnant after many episodes of unprotected sex are high, and I hate being deprived of the option of having my character become pregnant as a result.

 

[Temptationist]

Rape that isn't rape.​

So, my personal kink is dubious-consent / pseudo-non-con, which for the uninitiated is all about blurring the lines between 'no' and 'oh gods yes!' I love creating fantasies to overpower an intially unwilling victim with pleasure, usually pouring in fantastic elements like sex-monsters, magic, technology, aphrodisiacs, or all at once, all to drown the other character in so much pleasure and so much lust that, eventually, they loose the will to fight and submit entirely.

The problem is that the moment you apply this kind of mindset to the real world you start getting disastrous - seeing similarities with lines like 'she wanted it really', 'she was asking for it', etc. Morally and legally, sex without enthusiastic consent is rape, as it should be. Yet here I am saying how my kink is working away at 'no' until it means 'yes.' Danger Will Robinson, Danger!

This is a big part of why I write such fantasy-heavy roleplays, creating scenarios that are so far fetched, so impossible, so overtly different from reality that they could never be taken as a reflection of the real world, which makes it easier for me to be comfortable with having psuedo-non-con NOT be rape. But the difficulty is finding other writers who know the distinction.

On one side will often write with partners whose characters will say 'no' for about 3.1 seconds, then immediately start shouting "YES!" To me the thrill is in the challenge, in overcoming their strong will, having to go to ever greater heights of pleasure and denial, lust and want, all so they EVENTUALLY give in, not just play lip service to 'no' then jump on board. Worse is on the other side, where have writers whose characters never give in, and keep saying 'no' no matter what, which may well be realistic, even admirable, but it isn't an enjoyable fantasy for me, because then it just makes it straight up rape, which isn't something I want to write fantasies about.

So on one hand have characters paying lip-service to 'no', and on the other hand have characters who will keep saying 'no' till the police arive. Finding the rare few writers in between those extremes is my ongoing challenge.

Fuck.
YES.

This.
THISSSSSSSSSSSSS.

 

[Lurker]

This is a big part of why I write such fantasy-heavy roleplays, creating scenarios that are so far fetched, so impossible, so overtly different from reality that they could never be taken as a reflection of the real world

Luckily for me, my main kink is impossible in the real world so the problem never arises.
Unluckily for me, my main kink is impossible in the real world

 

[Squishypink]

Okay, I have one. For some reason I've become enamored with the idea of a consensual vore RP involving a Mind Flayer from D&D. I'm not even a hundred percent sure why the idea sounds sexy, but it's been impossible to find a partner for this.

 

[Manic]

You may or may not want to call this a kink but for me it is finding someone who is interested in the actual story and character development rather than just write a smut fest. So if you wanted to label it I would call it "Sapiosexual".

 

[Chaos]

Finding a female willing to play a dominate roll.
I don't know why this is hard but in the last five years or more in requesting this, I've either been ignored, told our interests don't mix, told they used to but they're tired of it, got something but they disappear before it gets anywhere, or just, sigh maybe those are about it but, why, WHY is it so hard to find a woman who will dominate? Or even just play a take-no-bull character.

I haven't seen much requests for tentacles, or many people willing to try them.

I'm, at least in recent years, but probably always, a very submissive male. I'm "feminine" in many ways too, but assuredly I'm completely straight, and male.
Yet every RP I do there's no one side dominating, or I'm the one dominating.
I think to be fair, I do have ONE RP where the girl is playing Dominate, but it's more of a bossy dom then the, physical type I crave. Not necessarily the sex but. I just don't like bossy. Give me an order and I will laugh. force me down and breath your love and I will melt. I guess I just like aggression more then anything else, I'm very timid too boot. although I do still have my male urges to take control, I would looooove to have control taken from me.

I would probably kill to play a sub role.... sigh...

 

[Rotten]

I just have problems finding sadistic guys, or twins characters, or literate rpers. That's basically usually my kinks for my female characters which I love to play as subs. My dom females get plenty of attention though. I don't know, maybe I have bad luck? Also just bestiality/monster kinks are hard to find too (I get judged for this one a lot).

But the literate rping one is what probably gets me the most as I love pushing myself to the limit with posts orat least put detail to enjoy the post as a treat. I don't mind having partners that aren't very lit but it would just be nice to have some more lit rp partners.

 

[Lurker]

I just have problems finding sadistic guys [...]
it would just be nice to have some more lit rp partners.

Shrugs and hands Rotten a can of gasoline and a matchbox.

 

[Chaos]

I just have problems finding sadistic guys, or twins characters, or literate rpers. That's basically usually my kinks for my female characters which I love to play as subs. My dom females get plenty of attention though. I don't know, maybe I have bad luck? Also just bestiality/monster kinks are hard to find too (I get judged for this one a lot).

But the literate rping one is what probably gets me the most as I love pushing myself to the limit with posts orat least put detail to enjoy the post as a treat. I don't mind having partners that aren't very lit but it would just be nice to have some more lit rp partners.

Well.... most girls in real life are submissive, or at least "submissive" The way of our culture, and our gender brain chemistry, men are typically stronger physically, and yada yada, point I'm making is either I'm surprised there's a lack of dominating men because of our natural, disposition? Or I'm not surprised at all since kink sites are usually full of people who are not of the norm.
It's pretty easy to play a dom male and in many cases I'm very much for it, but I am one of those rare men in real life day to day society who is submissive making it impossible for me to find anyone. Which is painful when I struggle the same in the RP. I can find No End to women wanting to play submissive, which is only natural, it seems, I guess, when I look at it. That most people here are submissive.

 

[Lord Polidori]

As the total degenerate I am, I have a lot of trouble finding people who like exceptionally off-brand kinks like bestiality and watersports. I'm also dominantly a smut writer and have trouble finding people who desire the same thing, total sexual nonsense. Aren't I unique?

Oh, also, dominant women who aren't abusive. Like shit man, the amount of times we've gone from hot foreplay to sex dungeon is uncountable.

 

[Chaos]

Ya, I agree, I want dominate but I also want gentle and loving. Good luck finding that.

 

[Vulgrim]

BDSM. Like, real BDSM, not "I'm a helpless sub who just sits there and takes it" BDSM.

BDSM is about trust and intimacy, it's about exposing yourself to another person completely. People just see it as a guy slapping a girl and calling her names and they leave it at that.

Most of my (attempted) BDSM role plays end up like that and it's getting really dry and boring. I just wish I could find someone who understands how intimate it's supposed to be.

 

[Rustic]

Finding a female willing to play a dominate roll.
I don't know why this is hard but in the last five years or more in requesting this, I've either been ignored, told our interests don't mix, told they used to but they're tired of it, got something but they disappear before it gets anywhere, or just, sigh maybe those are about it but, why, WHY is it so hard to find a woman who will dominate? Or even just play a take-no-bull character.

I haven't seen much requests for tentacles, or many people willing to try them.

I'm, at least in recent years, but probably always, a very submissive male. I'm "feminine" in many ways too, but assuredly I'm completely straight, and male.
Yet every RP I do there's no one side dominating, or I'm the one dominating.
I think to be fair, I do have ONE RP where the girl is playing Dominate, but it's more of a bossy dom then the, physical type I crave. Not necessarily the sex but. I just don't like bossy. Give me an order and I will laugh. force me down and breath your love and I will melt. I guess I just like aggression more then anything else, I'm very timid too boot. although I do still have my male urges to take control, I would looooove to have control taken from me.

I would probably kill to play a sub role.... sigh...

This is a common thread I've heard even on other RP sites.

As a mostly submissive male (I can be switch or even dom once in a blue moon), I can attest to this. Trying to find a female willing to play dominant... Then finding the right one... Is quite a long process...

But when it was brought up once before, a poll on roles in bed was revealed, and it showed something both surprising and understandable. Because there's a bit of a disproportionate.

Ignoring switches, the majority of females were submissive, but that percentage was lower for male Dom's (about half). As a result there was a good chunk of men as submissive, and far less of females as domme (about half or less). This makes sense, which would be why it's hard for women to find men who want to dom, and especially why men find it so difficult to find women who domme.

I think a large percentage were switches though, which is why some women like to domme, but might get burned out and would prefer to sub.

So it sucks, but that's essentially why.

On topic:

Giantess (or more specifically MC shrinking), that's very hard to find. Usually no females want to play someone big. I think I get why, because there's not way to get much sexual satisfaction, while the smaller one has all the fun (ie insertion, large breasts/ass, etc).

But I love this kink because it's so extreme, and falls into loss of control, and even being treated as a pet.

And the few that have wanted to play, usually played sadistic or porno cutouts. No one wants to play a more "realistic" scenario.

But alas no way to play it out irl.

 

[Mots2020]

Breath control and orgasm control for my female characters.
Meaning, the man is controlling the female.

The reason it's hard to find is not so much finding partners who are willing to do it, but more working the kink into the plot and also DOING THE KINK PROPERLY. Both controls are very calculated concepts that require coordination from both partners.

Also, pregnancy.
RPers always want to exclude standard protection but they never allow the possibility of pregnancy for me as a female writer unless discussed. I have had a select few writers in which we pre-discussed the possibility of my character getting pregnant. But normally, it's a big no.

For me, the pregnancy is less of a kink, and more of a "for sake of reality" type of thing. The chances of a girl becoming pregnant after many episodes of unprotected sex are high, and I hate being deprived of the option of having my character become pregnant as a result.

I can't agree with the breath and orgasm thing since I rarely RP those kind of things. But as you said, I'm sure it does require someone that would do it properly and that goes with pretty much any kink you or anyone else may have.

As for pregnancy, I totally agree with you there. It is near impossible to find people willing to do it, and it bugs me that two characters who get it on without any sort of pregnancy or pregnancy scares happening, like -insert character here- thinks they are, and then ends up not being pregnant. But at least 90% of the time, if I find the right partner, pregnancy does happen. Other than that, the other 10% are like nope, no way, no how.

Like 'Okay, you two are getting it on, listening to Marvin Gaye or smooth jazz and no 'cover' for the partner's... organ, what do you think is going to happen?' And it irks me that if I discuss it with someone and they're a big no for me as well. And then there is the whole birth thing, which I love writing, but I'm deprived of doing good scenes I know I can do and people are like 'Nope, SKIP!' -headdesk-

 

[Rustic]

As for pregnancy, I totally agree with you there. It is near impossible to find people willing to do it, and it bugs me that two characters who get it on without any sort of pregnancy or pregnancy scares happening, like -insert character here- thinks they are, and then ends up not being pregnant. But at least 90% of the time, if I find the right partner, pregnancy does happen. Other than that, the other 10% are like nope, no way, no how.

Like 'Okay, you two are getting it on, listening to Marvin Gaye or smooth jazz and no 'cover' for the partner's... organ, what do you think is going to happen?' And it irks me that if I discuss it with someone and they're a big no for me as well. And then there is the whole birth thing, which I love writing, but I'm deprived of doing good scenes I know I can do and people are like 'Nope, SKIP!' -headdesk-

I dislike pregnancy in any play. For me it's just a buzz kill to even have a pregnancy scare.

I get what you're saying, but while many want realism, I beleive realism and being realistic are two seperate terms when it comes to writing stories, and especially fantasies.

We want the story to mimic reality, but if it was completely realistic then likely it wouldnt be very good. Dialogue, characters, scenarios, all of that would end up being boring and/or seperate from what we want, which is to escape.

It's not supposed to be 100% real (thus the fantasy aspect), and for each person that means something different. For you that might mean pregnancy, for others like myself it doesn't, as that would pull us out of the fantasy.

But I get your frustration. I think we all suffer from having a kink hardly anyone is into.

 

[Lurker]

I want dominate but I also want gentle and loving. Good luck finding that.

Unfortunately it is true.

I have three main requests from an RP partner:
- Play a female character who can be gentle and loving but nevertheless enjoys being in control. Playing a switch is OK too.
- Have a decent amount of magical smut scenes in the RP.
- Don't make it too dark, violent, or negative.

Other than that, I am willing to compromise on most other elements, and that includes the gender of the writer.
That's right, most of my RP partners were biological males who liked playing female characters.

I dislike pregnancy in any play. For me it's just a buzz kill to even have a pregnancy scare.

I am not a big fan of pregnancy in RP, but if my partner wants their character to have a pregnancy scare or even a pregnancy, I will oblige to make them happy. As I said above: compromise.

I get what you're saying, but while many want realism, I beleive realism and being realistic are two seperate terms when it comes to writing stories, and especially fantasies.

We want the story to mimic reality, but if it was completely realistic then likely it wouldnt be very good. Dialogue, characters, scenarios, all of that would end up being boring and/or seperate from what we want, which is to escape.

It's not supposed to be 100% real (thus the fantasy aspect), and for each person that means something different. For you that might mean pregnancy, for others like myself it doesn't, as that would pull us out of the fantasy.

I believe the term you are looking for is "internal consistency".
The story needs to make sense in the context of the universe it is set in.

 

[Adamina]

Oh, I like this topic!

My ladies are switch but when my muse is having a domme episode, it's difficult to find my favorite kind of dynamic. I don't like male subs that are physically weak or timid, passive, of no station - that's too easy, my dommes need a chase and challenge; what I'm after is a sub that's physically commanding, bold, confident, potentially rebellious, who has the tables turned on him by a delicate and elegant woman.

We've likely all seen "a brutish orc ravaging a fragile elf" prompt...I'd want the pretty little elf to dominate the big strong orc. Yeah, maybe he ravages her to start - until she casts a spell that morphs him into her liege. It's where the underpowered of the two somehow, someway, gains control and strives/struggles to keep it. I want my lady to dominate the hulking warlord, tame the fearsome werewolf, the demon, the vampire, the lamia, the crime mogul, etc. Monsters/beasts and men of authority/power whet my domination appetite, and they're hard to come by, sadly.

I'm not sure what the kink for "wanting to dominate and enslave powerful males" is called, however it's definitely one I've had a while.

 

[Rustic]

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Oh, I like this topic!

My ladies are switch but when my muse is having a domme episode, it's difficult to find my favorite kind of dynamic. I don't like male subs that are physically weak or timid, passive, of no station - that's too easy, my dommes need a chase and challenge; what I'm after is a sub that's physically commanding, bold, confident, potentially rebellious, who has the tables turned on him by a delicate and elegant woman.

We've likely all seen "a brutish orc ravaging a fragile elf" prompt...I'd want the pretty little elf to dominate the big strong orc. Yeah, maybe he ravages her to start - until she casts a spell that morphs him into her liege. It's where the underpowered of the two somehow, someway, gains control and strives/struggles to keep it. I want my lady to dominate the hulking warlord, tame the fearsome werewolf, the demon, the vampire, the lamia, the crime mogul, etc. Monsters/beasts and men of authority/power whet my domination appetite, and they're hard to come by, sadly.

I'm not sure what the kink for "wanting to dominate and enslave powerful males" is called, however it's definitely one I've had a while.

Powerplay I think is what you're looking for?

I've seen this as a common thread, and I've dabbled in it before. But when I've played this before it was usually against a more sadistic woman. And as a result it was more MC was far from being controlled and the RP was him being broken in.

I've gotten tired of that dynamic. Though I almost always play a sub who has a strong backbone, can't do the doormat kind.

As some of the posters above I more seek the caring domme, one who's loving and gentle. It's hard to find. Of course this could also work in powerplay, where the fierce werewolf/monster/strongman submits to the kind woman to do her bidding. Where its love and gentleness that control him (though a spell works too), not straight up punishment.

 

[Adamina]

Powerplay I think is what you're looking for?

I've seen this as a common thread, and I've dabbled in it before. But when I've played this before it was usually against a more sadistic woman. And as a result it was more MC was far from being controlled and the RP was him being broken in.

I've gotten tired of that dynamic. Though I almost always play a sub who has a strong backbone, can't do the doormat kind.

As some of the posters above I more seek the caring domme, one who's loving and gentle. It's hard to find. Of course this could also work in powerplay, where the fierce werewolf/monster/strongman submits to the kind woman to do her bidding. Where its love and gentleness that control him (though a spell works too), not straight up punishment.

Powerplay could be it, possibly.

I'm a moderate fan of breaking-in, howbeit not in the way of sadism, abuse, and similar. My preference is for a bond to be formed via sensuality, intimacy, and mutual pleasure - that the male can't and won't get anywhere else but from my domme...with hints of punishment, discipline/reinforcement. The love part has to form organically, in him earning it from her, and her earning it from him too, or it's forced, and that's just not sway.

Something else of note - I'd say the male subs I'm predominantly approached by want to be beaten, degraded, humiliated, etc. Those that want gentle, affectionate, and loving are rarer, which can pose issue when your dommes aren't abusive/sadistic.

 

[Rustic]

Powerplay could be it, possibly.

I'm a moderate fan of breaking-in, howbeit not in the way of sadism, abuse, and similar. My preference is for a bond to be formed via sensuality, intimacy, and mutual pleasure - that the male can't and won't get anywhere else but from my domme...with hints of punishment, discipline/reinforcement. The love part has to form organically, in him earning it from her, and her earning it from him too, or it's forced, and that's just not sway.

Something else of note - I'd say the male subs I'm predominantly approached by want to be beaten, degraded, humiliated, etc. Those that want gentle, affectionate, and loving are rarer, which can pose issue when your dommes aren't abusive/sadistic.

There's something beautiful about a domme and sub RP that falls more into something more romantic than sadistic. I've always wanted to explore that, a real relationship. Something where they trust and care for each other. Where the domination comes from this trust and care.

Then, even if there is something like humiliation or pain, it's from this trust, and only done in a playful way. But I've never really been into humiliation or pain too much either.

What you seek seems to also tick my boxes. We seem similar. So if you're ever looking for a sub, like what you describe, feel free to contact me to see if I'm available.

 

[Staine]

Playing a submissive male is a difficult one to find a partner for, thankfully my partner plays a Domme for me and only me, and we have roleplays where I do get to play that role so I don't need or want to find a female dominant. She is plenty sadistic enough.

Finding a male to dom your character is tough enough too though, I know that from searching and it becomes five times harder to find one who isn't looking for a femboy or somebody willing to be feminised. That's not my kink, in fact it's a limit, I do only play masculine men as a rule so my own type would work against me in that. I'm sure the same goes for female and futa dommes too, it seems that if you are looking for a sub male, you probably want that too, so that would be mine. A dom for a sub male not wanting feminisation or crossdressing.

 

[RoyalGuppy]

I have a MAJOR hair fetish. Mainly pertaining to head hair but I like pubic hair as well, particularly a nice bush. My main reason for joining here was my looking for RPs where I can play with my fetish, haha.

But yeah, if anyone's interested in it, I outlined what I like in my first request thread.

 

[Tinkerer Nadia]

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[Melevolence]

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