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IRL Gender

If we get a conversation going outside of the RP, I'd like to know the preferred pronouns of their online persona since I sometimes "/me" in the third person just for the fun of it.
E.g.: Lurker sighs at his partner's shenanigans and blows a raspberry in <his/her/their> general direction.

Does that count as "matters"?
 
i do generally prefer writing with other women, as I see a lot of males in my typical week, and do like to have more to do with other women.
 
I dont really care personally. Its all just words on a screen to me, i have no interest in (for example) meeting people IRL, so if being a man or woman is part of their fantasy thats not really any different from me RPing a blonde character.
 
It honestly doesn’t matter to me but apparently to some people it does.
I don’t judge but I honestly don’t care of myself as long as we have fun writing together.
I don’t really write with many ladies (I never ask the gender of who I write with but they always as me) but I have a harem of guys I write with here which I don’t mind but if I find a lady to write with I’ll give it a shot!
 
Not for me, I don’t search out the gender of my opposite before agreeing to RP with them. It makes no difference as I am only here for the story element.
 
I only ever played as a girl as that's what i'm comfortable with. Although if a female asks to roleplay with me and is ok with roleplaying as a guy that's fine
 
Doesn't matter! But I usually play male because I don't know how to act like a girl if you understand. Oh yeah i'm a guy
 
Hmm doesn't matter much to me. I feel like as long as you aren't weird about it it'll be fine. The important part is knowing there's a level of separation between writer and character. So I may have a male writing partner playing a female, but I know I'm not being a dom for a man but for a woman character, if that makes sense.
 
So, I can completely understand how some people only want to write with a partner of a certain gender. Like, if you are a man, and want to do some collab with a woman on some sexy writing, it's part of the prospect to know that you're writing with each other is gratifying the other person. I can totally see how someone who is straight would be weird about getting another person of the same sex all hot and horny over their writing. I understand. But I'm not adverse to writing with female partners, myself. But then again, I'm also not exactly straight. lol I've been sexually active with both men and women, so it's less of an issue with me. Fundamentally, it should matter more if you are actually a good writer. And whether your interests and styles mesh well. That should be a bigger focus on how the roleplaying gets along.

Here's the real question though... how would you even know? Like, some people are very good writers. To the point where they might be very good at narrating the opposite sex. And some people might bumble writing even their own sex. So, what's to distinguish if the person you are writing with even IS the gender you think they are? This is the internet after all.
 
Murdergurl said:
Here's the real question though... how would you even know? Like, some people are very good writers. To the point where they might be very good at narrating the opposite sex. And some people might bumble writing even their own sex. So, what's to distinguish if the person you are writing with even IS the gender you think they are? This is the internet after all.
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I suspect that many of the people who care just don't want to ruin their fantasy and/or immersion by knowing, and are perfectly fine with assuming and pretending.
 
Lurker said:
I suspect that many of the people who care just don't want to ruin their fantasy and/or immersion by knowing, and are perfectly fine with assuming and pretending.
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To be fair, I've never had anyone demand for me to prove my gender. And even if they did, I'm not going to post up with a pic of my driver's license + birth certificate to abate their suspicion. They're just going to have to take my word for it.
 
Murdergurl said:
To be fair, I've never had anyone demand for me to prove my gender. And even if they did, I'm not going to post up with a pic of my driver's license + birth certificate to abate their suspicion. They're just going to have to take my word for it.
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Unfortunately, sites (including at least one RP forum I am aware of) are going this route for age verification, but this is another rant for a different topic.
 
Yeah same tbh. Almost walked into one of those communities once, got asked for my ID/driver's license for additional proof and went 'Nope.'
 
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Lurker said:
Unfortunately, sites (including at least one RP forum I am aware of) are going this route for age verification, but this is another rant for a different topic.
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I know Discord started doing that. but I think it's because people can freely make servers with adult content. And since no one had a verification system for a while, they had to eventually put in the requisite to check and verify. Because it became rife with minors posting porn. it's a big legal issue, for sure.

That being said... modern technology is a wonder, and sending any kind of picture ID is still no absolute proof of validity. So the whole thing is basically just a hassle that can be gotten around by anyone determined to do so.
 
There's also that new Louisiana law that requires websites that are > 30% pornographic material to verify the ages of people who access the site - so requesting IDs may become more common in the near future. I don't know how enforceable it is, but it's on the books.

Oh, but to answer the main question in the thread: I don't care a bit about another writer's gender. If they're good, they're good.
 
Lydia said:
There's also that new Louisiana law that requires websites that are > 30% pornographic material to verify the ages of people who access the site - so requesting IDs may become more common in the near future. I don't know how enforceable it is, but it's on the books.

Oh, but to answer the main question in the thread: I don't care a bit about another writer's gender. If they're good, they're good.
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but like... how do you even enforce that? The state of Louisiana can't exactly patrol the internet access of people in the state. The internet isn't based on actual land, so how do they even claim jurisdiction? If it's wherever a company is based, all they need to do is outsource to a proxy or otherwise base their server outside of the state boundaries and they are effectively immune to State Law.
 
According to this article, "companies that violate the law can be sued by individuals 'for damages resulting from a minor's accessing the material.' The law includes language to prevent news organizations and Internet service providers from being held liable."

So it's a bit like those abortion laws from a couple years back, where they might not be able to throw people in jail, but they are putting anyone in violation at risk for a lawsuit in LA courts.
 
ƒeral said:
I did a little digging since that's quite interesting --

The legislation in question, Act No. 440, provides for civil liability against publishers/distributors unless they use "reasonable age verification methods"*
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So here's the thing. Civil court doesn't pass through state lines. you can't sue someone in the civil court of one state if they are in another state. Unless you get the case extradited. but that's a whole other mess and honestly not as easy as it seems. then you have to enforce the extradition. What is Louisiana gonna do, send their cops over to Pornhub headquarters? They can't. It's a whole lot of threat, and no real way of truly enforcing it.

ƒeral said:
*such as requiring a govt ID

What does this mean?

It means the provider shouldn't give a shit beyond paying basic lip service. And there's no individual liability, at least from this particular law.

So all hail fake IDs.
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As I had said:

Murdergurl said:
That being said... modern technology is a wonder, and sending any kind of picture ID is still no absolute proof of validity. So the whole thing is basically just a hassle that can be gotten around by anyone determined to do so.
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A simple photoshop job and done.

These laws are stupid.
 
Right. And if someone who simply doesn't feel comfortable supplying ID was to use a VPN to disguise the fact they're from LA, the site would also not be liable. There are plenty of ways around it for the consumers, and the companies probably don't care and won't go beyond the bare minimum to meet the requirements of the law.

However, people can still try to sue, and it's an expense, and a pain in the ass, even if the lawsuit is dismissed. So large companies will request age verification as a token gesture.
 
Not a bit. Long as we're both happy and intimate the story doesn't matter a bit. But of a red flag for me if they do care about ooc gender and if it matters.
 
Doesn't matter to me at all. In my experience, a writer's ability to play characters and who they are in real life are two vastly different things. I'm here to share someone's imagination and creativity.
 
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