- Joined
- Jul 5, 2020
- Location
- Barsoom
...I definitely don't see how it's unrealistic since, you know, it's something we really do. In a lot of the BDSM communities I am in, it seems to be the norm too, that after a scene the sub is still sub, even in switch relationships but that just may be the people I talk to so I am loathe to say it is the most common practice...
I don't really talk about this much, but I used to be in a small BDSM community when I lived in another city. Before that I had a "Dom" for a stint. But for the... 5? 6? years that I was involved between all of them (as well as online places like fetlife) I have found the BDSM community as a (generalized) whole to be mostly pretentious. I'm not saying there aren't some really cool and legit people in it. But the ones that make themselves front and center are typically just a bunch of edgelords that want to exemplify how Dommy or Subby they are to anyone that will give them attention. In my experience, the Doms are (usually) men that use the scene to be dicks to women, and the subs (usually women) are very bitchy and territorial and think that anyone coming around to talk to a group is attempting to move in on their Dom.
One of the many issues I had with one group was that I was easily the youngest in the lot, and felt like I was being eyed like fresh meat every time I'd go around to the munches.
Anyhow, I know that was a little off track. Bu tI thought I'd chide in with that since it seemed relevant.
I guess to relate it back to what we were talking about, irl BDSM is hardly on the level with what I see it advertised and portrayed like in online RP.