"Can't we help you with the rest? At least the less personal things like kitchen stuff and furniture?" I know you like to do things for yourself, and you have lived alone a long time, but you know, being able to help someone makes you feel good, almost more than being helped. The staff here are a lot more than just servants. They are almost my family, or at least as close as I've got. Yes I pay them, but ask them sometime what is most important. I'm not worried about what they will tell you.