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A writing fetish I have involves femboys and gender transformations. I'd like to explain that because a lot of the people approaching me with requests tend to have a different way of looking at this particular kink.

I don't find effeminate men sexy. I don't find femboys attractive.

I like humiliation & degradation. When an alpha man finds himself 'outmanned' and reduced to a submissive slut, it is darkly comic and interesting. I enjoy character building that takes on such an arc, where confidence is slowly shattered. While I do enjoy cliche scenarios of men dominating women, it is men establishing superiority over their peers is that I find more fascinating. This is why I'm less likely to write a story with a character that starts as a femboy, but I'm more willing to write as a regular guy who undergoes that journey. The potential for a man to look incredibly feminine is also sexy.

I also enjoy gender transformations on another comical level. I feel men and women think differently, and if one mind travels to another gender's body, hilarity ensues. I guess I've been exposed to too many comedy movies that deal with that plot that I became interested. Though I do acquiesce its more difficult to capture that comedic potential in an RP.

As for real life, I'm pretty basic. I don't have a lot of wild kink tbh. I'm mostly attracted to intelligence and witty humor.
 
Uhm... Well I've only just been allowed onto this site; 18, and so I can't say that I've explored plenty of fetishes, nor would I claim to have experienced even a quarter of the ones mentioned on this thread. I've become used to playing a submissive male or a dominant male... Each giving different perspectives to what the other person would like. Naturally what I choose will come down to what the other person wants, as opposed to myself, but recently I've checked into newer forms of roleplay which are quite... Mm... Different, to say the least, than from what I expect.

Regardless, I find myself interested in roleplay with typical female users. "But Fledge, WTF! WHY DOES IT MATTER?!" I'm sure even some girls can sympathise but due to my noobness I'd feel much more comfortable knowing that it's a female. Not because it's a great turn on but because they have a greater perspective on what I seek as well as tending to think in a way that is unfamiliar to my own. With this in mind, I'd like to ask any would-be female viewers of this post to send me a PM if you just feel you want to chat... I feel at home about females and I find I wait a godawful long time for my roleplaying partners to respond to my own. Sexist? Maybe. Could be said that turn on's are inherently sexist and thus makes everyone a hypocrite if they see me as such... Before I continue to ramble and perhaps offend more people... I shall depart.

Good day and happy roleplay.~
 
Hey there! Welcome.
You know, I've been RPing for a long time (granted, not such a long time compared to some other posters) and I also prefer a male's perspective, though I will RP with anyone writing a convincing male character. It's okay to have preferences.
I would bet most people haven't experienced (in real life) many of the fetishes they write about, especially the more extremes ones and certainly those not naturally possible ;) Though there can be overlap for sure...
Can you tell me more about turn ons being inherently sexist? I'm genuinely curious?
 
RedRose said:
Hey there! Welcome.
You know, I've been RPing for a long time (granted, not such a long time compared to some other posters) and I also prefer a male's perspective, though I will RP with anyone writing a convincing male character. It's okay to have preferences.
I would bet most people haven't experienced (in real life) many of the fetishes they write about, especially the more extremes ones and certainly those not naturally possible ;) Though there can be overlap for sure...
Can you tell me more about turn ons being inherently sexist? I'm genuinely curious?
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I've been roleplaying for a long time but... I mostly do plot progression through OC and original lore. I suppose it's been a while since I started so I assume myself to be at least average or above average in terms of responses while I find that if I'm in more of a creative mood then that'll earn better responses from me so... A happy boy is a writing boy... Waiting is simply a mood killer and a drag.

I'd be concerned, in all honesty, if people had roleplayed out even half of what they claim to do in ERP as it's all seemingly fantasy or... Unrealistic. It's why we sought out creative writing in the first place, is it not? Where weird, wacky and original lore lies so too does the sexual pressies also arise in both strange and wonderful ways. Enough from my personal thoughts, though, heh.

'Inherently sexist turn on' - When I wrote this, I did it to assure that I am a straight male who desires the domination of a female. Females provide more realistic responses both inside dom and outside of it. A female is a female and as such, just as psychology will tell us; you cannot put a man into a room and say 'be a girl' because that is simply ludicrous. Of course, it works vice versa. 'convincing' But for me, it's not enough, I'm afraid. Now let's explore a different viewpoint. I have roleplayed out, recently, a 'cuntboy'. This character has never had stimulation down there and as such I can give a fresh response of how he personally receives it but also by accumulating information from sub females in the past, I feel I can make it a situation where a boy didn't use his vagina and now he has one and it's new and this is how he responds to this dom pressing their wrath down onto him. I am not providing a female outlook. Not at all. I am providing to my roleplay partner what I've seen, heard and know about female stimulation... I include that as well as how a boy could react to it as I am one myself.

Perhaps I'd gone slightly off topic but my point still stands: 'inherently sexist turn ons' originate from the desire to be with that of the opposite sex with clear knowledge that they possess the required knowledge that you seek through their own personal experiences. I'd go into 'unrealistic' turn ons but that's a completely different thing... When nature is concerned, that is. A woman with big breasts may not understand fully what it is to have breasts 10x her own size but it's convincing. A woman can roleplay the use of a penis but not the persona of a male or the mindset that comes with it. They may take on a masculine role but... I've learned that genders take things different ways.

'sexist' in nature cannot be blamed on a person... It's hilarious to try. 'Get hard for that gay guy!' and unless the person being demanded to become erect likes doms? I don't think it'll sprout any time soon. Regardless, it's a skill to be able to play male and female but people will always lean toward what they like best... Be it OOC gender or IC gender. I'm sorry if this wasn't enough or didn't satisfy your question but... I tried so...
 
I don't like the term sexist when it comes to fetishes. I know this is a little off topic but it kind of relates to fetishes and how people perceive them. So, long as we're explaining why we like them, sometimes judgements still get thrown around. Like, my first thought with the dick cheese comment at the top of this page was, "Now there's someone who deserves to be ridiculed and shamed for their fetish..." but then I thought of how that truly affected me and realized, not at all. It is okay for me to be personally disgusted by the thought of dick cheese but to denigrate someone else for liking that? Why? What purpose does that serve. I think it is important to the discussion of people's personal likes and dislikes not to get caught up in what is "right" or "wrong."* Some people like rape-play in role-play and real life but are horrified and disgusted by rapists. The whole point of fetish and attraction is that it is uncontrollable. It is a gut reaction, a physical reaction, where the body responds in a way to seeing something, reading about something, or doing something, that leads to sexual gratification.

So, sexist in this context feels misplaced and I would caution against using that word to describe something you have no control over. Because it waters down the true impact of sexism in real life, in the words and actions of people in real life to designate certain sexes/genders as superior to another. THAT is a real troublesome thing that actually exists and needs to be stopped and watering down what we identify as sexist can make it harder to identify and the outrage we need to feel when it does happen. Having a sexual preference where it breaks your immersion and fantasy to be with a certain gender is not harming anybody when two people consent and agree to engage in this sort of sexual play. So long as you still treat everyone with respect, I think you'll be okay. ^__^ Because all you're denying someone when you say, "I only wish to rp with real off-on screen women" is access to sex with you, either in real life or in rp. That's it. You're not saying they can't have sex with whoever they want or be whoever they want in rp. You have every right to consent to certain acts.

I just wanted to add my two cents about that, since it can get a little sensitive when this is brought up. People feel the need to apologize beforehand for their desires and that is not okay. Then people feel entitled to get offended by someone else's sexual desires and that is not okay. Like me and the someone out there who likes dick cheese and gets off on that; how much does that affect me, really?

*unless we're talking about real-life consent and causing harm to other people/animals.
 
Had a discussion about incest just awhile ago: I like fictional incest, something that most of gaming/rp/writing friends know already, but for Real-World, I'm not.. it's very, very situational. The thing is, Real-World incest is heavily intertwined with coercion, dubcon and imbalance of power, things that are generally okay (and even considered fetishes themselves) in fiction but quickly going to 'horrifying' and 'should involve the police' in reality. Especially when/if children are involved.

Some other fetishes are just impractical to do in real life, even more so considering how everyone is carrying phones that can take pictures/record videos nowadays, or the complications from arranging multi-partner/cheating scenarios, or the health concerns.
 
Rudolph Quin said:
The whole point of fetish and attraction is that it is uncontrollable. It is a gut reaction, a physical reaction, where the body responds in a way to seeing something, reading about something, or doing something, that leads to sexual gratification.
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Just to pick out this line, that's a very good point. One of the things that makes sex and sexuality such an interesting subject for me is how it can bypass so much of our civilised standards and behaviour. Hence why what we find sexy is so often at odds with who we are in other aspects of life--politically incorrect, shocking, tasteless or unsettling to others and ourselves. Sex is the ultimate subversive force, that can express itself for different people through virtually anything.

One thing that first set me thinking on the subject was reading some books by Nancy Friday, who wrote a series of books analysing sexual fantasies and talking about how they can stem from the standards of behaviour and gender roles that are drilled into us as children and teenagers (or were--they were published during the 70's and 80's). Really interesting stuff.
 
I think there's more "wrong" to father/daughter or mother/son than "just" inbreeding damages. The entire "child abuse" thing should be part of that taboo as well, no?
Like... for years my child' life lay in my hands... my baby would have died if i did not feed it, etc. etc. Later on it is "my child's psychological well-being lay in my hands".
The power abuse aspect... "Im your parent, i confiscate your phone if you don't have sex with me" thing.
So I disagree strongly that it's just inbreeding damages that make those pairings taboo.

It's a kink and it's ok to rp that out. Heck... i play a LOT of things that are taboo and don't want to be judged for them. So... play whatever you like. Im just saying "parent/child" incest is not only a taboo because of genetics.
 
Can't speak for everyone, but my biggest kinks are the things that seem to go through a few phases in my head: near-phobic revulsion, then curiosity, then fascination. Occasionally, revelations about my own life and who I am. Which is... always a thing to experience, and probably explains the aversion in the first place.

The ones that don't work for me are the ones that just... I can't figure out where the joy is, I guess? Not that I can't see it in the hypothetical sense, but that I can't seem to manage to get into it myself. The main one that I can think of in the minute being vore- it's just so... cartoonish? That I just can't seem to click with it. Which doesn't mean I never will- all it takes is one person doing it right and changing my mind, ha- but I'm yet to quite get there.
 
Hmmm my fetishes have been pretty random from playing a prince type boyfriend with a wild kinky side in bed, to playing a highstrung actress or a singer. I'm the type of person who can try about anything once or twice before I can get pretty tired of it, but if the person is nice and is willing to bare with me knowing that I don't know the structure of their kink all that well I won't argue about it.

Then again I've had my share of weird rps
 
I don't understand futa at all. I kinda like incest because it's taboo. I have thought about it with my dad and a few other relatives of mine. I got into rape because of me being raped when I was young by my female high school tutor. Took a while after it happened before I started enjoying it. I love bondage because of the pain but I really love it because I have absolutely no control or say so over what happens to me. I mean with rape you can get out of it by fighting your way out of it. But with bondage, your tied up your at the mercy of someone.
 
Hi, I have LOTS of crazy kinks. You're welcome to ask me about them, but I'll talk about some of the biggest ones... which all seem to center on a total loss of control, mentally.

I am a perfectionist. I'm extremely conscious of every word I say, every action I take, and I build up a ton of pressure on myself to do well in every way. In RP, I can let my hair down a bit, since I consider it "sketching" rather than trying to create a finished work... but that's beside the point. I like to engage with characters being forced to give in, having their minds altered and generally fucked with... likely because I, myself, can't fucking relax and enjoy anything for two seconds. So of course, I have a kink for being forced to enjoy something. Hypnosis is huge for me because of this... because it lets me give in, hand over control to someone else, and relax. When hypnotized, you don't worry about how you look, or if you're going to upset someone, or generally all that other shit that my stress and anxiety disorders do to my brain. It's quite nice.

I also think a lot of my interests involving less-humanoid characters come from a sense of bodily dysphoria. If you don't feel right in your own skin, you start exploring other possibilities of what "you" could be... an animal, a demon, a monster? Well, for me it's actually just gender stuff, but the idea stands... if the genitals and gender presentation I had were wrong, what might be "right"? And then I started exploring different body types... and realizing that many things work for me, haha.
 
The futa kink for me developed after I got into lesbian porn (the only kind of porn I watch now, except for futa) I started really getting into strap-on lesbian porn and I've also been an avid purveyor of hentai since I hit puberty, so naturally these two fetishes of lesbians with strapons and Hentai coalesced into Futa.

As for Furries... come on. Lola bunny from space jam, cheetara from thunder cats, cheetah from the DC universe, so on and so forth... how furries aren't WAY more common is a mystery to me considering what cartoons we grew up with.

How did I get into hentai?... come on, SAILOR FUCKING MOON!
 
I think Futa is fun because it's a hybrid. Men are easier to get off, this is a simple fact. As a dom, I find futas as alot of fun to play with because the penis is fun to play with. That being said, I'm sure you could go into power and control and how for eons women have been subjugated for lack of something between their legs.

Rape is sort of the ultimate power fantasy. Most kinks are about power to some degree, either giving or taking power. Even a blow job. Rape is in a way the ultimate version of this. Plus I think knowing what it does to people, everyone sort of wonders what it would be like to do it. Like fucking a porn star.

Sorry if repeating what others have already said.
 
ThomasRHellsing said:
I think Futa is fun because it's a hybrid. Men are easier to get off, this is a simple fact. As a dom, I find futas as alot of fun to play with because the penis is fun to play with. That being said, I'm sure you could go into power and control and how for eons women have been subjugated for lack of something between their legs.

Rape is sort of the ultimate power fantasy. Most kinks are about power to some degree, either giving or taking power. Even a blow job. Rape is in a way the ultimate version of this. Plus I think knowing what it does to people, everyone sort of wonders what it would be like to do it. Like fucking a porn star.

Sorry if repeating what others have already said.
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Just stating that women are not necessarily harder to get off. I can tell you as a bisexual woman of 39 year of age, that it depends on the woman.
 
I like nudity. Why? Well you see, I like being im my skin very much. It feels good. Air on my parts and nothing to hide. Thats how I spend most of my time at my home
 
Just found this thread so I figured I'll had my two cents.

I suppose one kind of weird thing with me is that there are some kinks that I've had only in phases. Maybe I have to get 'riled up' in just the right way. Or maybe it comes in waves, like go of for six months with no interest and then suddenly popping back up on my radar for the next month or two. It goes back down and repeat. And that's a bit annoying because it had a whole new layer of complexity over trying to figure out if I like that stuff or not. So things like futa have only come up in interest occasionally and far apart. Or how I can sort of get into RPing with incest, but it has to be sibling only and have just the right tone and - whole bunch of other stuff I haven't figured out.

Now one I definitely have and have been asked about it the most is transformation (which I know others here have mentioned). And it's usually into some kind of animalistic beast... I guess that makes me a furry but I prefer 'anthro' more so. At least, based on my understanding of it (Isn't anthro used for more 'realistic' depictions where as furry is your big eyes, unnatural fur and neon tongue and dowel? lol). Probably no surprise that I've played with lycans more so than anything else. I am interested if anyone has a way to describe it because I would like to have words whenever I'm asked about it again. Best way I could describe it is like... normal transformation is like the world's greatest stretch. That feeling of finally getting out of the car after you've been having to us the middle seat for the last six hours. So the sexual ones is like that but combined with this need to rip away from your bonds and be free to acted however you want. Sort of symbolic I guess?
 
Bondage... why? I have no idea, it';s been there since before I knew what sexy or aroused really meant. I just use dto love being tied up and feeling all.. squirmy!
Stockings... make my legs feel amazing and gives me a hge confidence boost as they'r ehidden under normal clothes, like I have a naughty secret. I love that.
Corsets... linke dto bondage I always think.. gives me a lovely feeling of being held tight.
 
Exhibiting, I rather enjoy being naked. Stockings, especially with spooky or sexy patterns. Bondage, the sensation of complete vulnerability is quite lovely. Discipline, being spanked or whipped for being naughty is delightful. I have more fetishes but, I'll stop here for now.
 
I am somewhat of an exhibitionist, in theory, of course. And it just occurred to me that I haven't explored this in roleplay-- if I had to pin the interest down on something it would be the potential of being a sexual object in what would otherwise be a neutral space, not about power over one person or a display of some strange romanticism, but a stance against civilization and all it keeps us apart from. I could see this working as a big "fuck you" in some forbidden love deal.
 
As my name implies, tight and shiny latex. I don’t exactly know why, but I have always been attracted to bodies in tight clothing. At first it was “leather” in a generic sense as I had no frame of reference to what I was seeing. Eventually super glossy and highly polished latex became my weakness. My attachment only grew when I actually purchased my first articles of latex clothing and the feel, sound and smell solidified my attraction to it.
 
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