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- Jul 14, 2015
I think the whole... lying about, or hiding one's gender is a complicated thing.
Because sometimes gender is some bull@#$!.
Sometimes you want to be treated in a certain way, based solely on your personality... people's treatment of you and assumptions about you will change based on their perceptions of your gender and what they think about that gender.
And in many ways, hiding your gender, or saying you are one gender or the other might allow you to be, and be treated as, the real "you", particularly if you find you don't fit in with the norms of your gender.
If you're a guy IRL, but are much more feminine... people won't treat you as such if they think you're a guy.
And if you take it a step further, you get into issues of gender identity, which adds another angle to things.
Now... in a lot of places online, in a lot of more open-minded and LGBT-supportive communities, nobody would say a transgender person who presents online as the gender they identity as, even if they don't offline, they wouldn't they this person is "lying".
But it can still be a cause of strife.
This is much the reason why I prefer not to disclose my gender online, because I am still very uncertain about my gender identity, and have a lot of insecurities about where my life is headed in regards to it... if I truly befriend someone, I'm okay telling them everything, but until then... well, it's not really anybody's business.
Because sometimes gender is some bull@#$!.
Sometimes you want to be treated in a certain way, based solely on your personality... people's treatment of you and assumptions about you will change based on their perceptions of your gender and what they think about that gender.
And in many ways, hiding your gender, or saying you are one gender or the other might allow you to be, and be treated as, the real "you", particularly if you find you don't fit in with the norms of your gender.
If you're a guy IRL, but are much more feminine... people won't treat you as such if they think you're a guy.
And if you take it a step further, you get into issues of gender identity, which adds another angle to things.
Now... in a lot of places online, in a lot of more open-minded and LGBT-supportive communities, nobody would say a transgender person who presents online as the gender they identity as, even if they don't offline, they wouldn't they this person is "lying".
But it can still be a cause of strife.
This is much the reason why I prefer not to disclose my gender online, because I am still very uncertain about my gender identity, and have a lot of insecurities about where my life is headed in regards to it... if I truly befriend someone, I'm okay telling them everything, but until then... well, it's not really anybody's business.