I am male with a preference for females, but I admit that I am not threatened at all by women who want to be with other women, either sometimes or as their preference totally. Nor am I threatened when gay men come onto me, as what is a preference is a preference.
As for my specific preferences within being heterosexual, I am a real life Master and Dom, and I have experience with many things. Bondage, body positions, kinky clothes and costumes (for all the "geeks" on here.. the stories about what happens at Cons is true..), whips, clips, crops, floggers, paddles, spanking, tickling, using things like ice, candles...
With the exceptions of the extreme stuff, you get the idea. I admit that much of the soft stuff comes into play, but pure vanilla has never been what drives me.
The one thing that is a very intense turn on is when a woman WANTS to be forced to orgasm (emphases on that word WANTS...). I have found may women enjoy that being done through cunnilingus, and I do so enjoy eating a woman out, but I also know of other methods.