I understand not being comfortable being in charge, but there are some things you think are wrong. Start with those first. Like the rules about mating and marriage. Right now love isn't a factor, but it could be. You just have to tell them that it is, and help them to understand. They know little of love just as I did, but they have to listen and obey. That's just one example. They have been waiting 15 years for the alpha female to arrive and do just that. No one would dare oppose you."