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Turning down a RP pitch

Personally, if I refuse an RP pitch, I like to explain exactly what doesn't "jive with me" in that pitch so that they're aware of the exact reason for which I am refusing, making it clear that they—the RPer—are not the thing I have a problem with, and its simply that the RP idea itself is not compatible with my own preferences. ...this, sadly, gets difficult when the problem is the actual person themselves when I learn of some drama they were involved in with a past partner and would prefer to avoid it. Thankfully, the latter hasn't been an issue on Blue Moon since most everyone I'm aware of is quite pleasant, and the people who approach me with interest usually know exactly how I roll based on my RT, but BMR has been the exception, not the rule, for me in that regard. That said, I kinda give 0 shits if I end up getting ignored, so if someone doesn't reply to my DM I'll likely forget I DMed them in the first place after a week or so. ...this has led to awkward situations where I sent 3 requests to the same person over the course of a month. :p
 
Depends of what type of big bulky message it is. I can and do appreciate messages that acknowledge my request thread and ideas or plots from it that could mesh well or inspire the person reaching to plot with me. Excitement from said person and them actually wanting to write a story with me. I will answer those politely, promptly whether or not I can take on more partners.

Now with messages that are copy and paste of someone's RT or a clear indication they haven't read mine or just general fuckery, I find it best to simply not respond. In the past I have always replied to every message I've gotten, been polite, and still got nastiness in return. You can't please everyone and I'm not even going to try.
 
So my opinion on this is I will respond to them informing them or in the least letting them know that the idea being pitched is not for me. I feel it is kind of sad to never hear back from someone when someone takes the time to reach out. Sometimes though when someone reaches out an idea isn't present and only after conversing will it come out and in that time yes I will politely let them know the idea doesn't work for me or the pairing perhaps. I just feel it takes a lot to reach out in general and leaving them sitting never knowing if the message was received or not is kind of...well it is an ouch moment. I mean let us be general...it is rare getting pms these days and so many people are bumping their RT's along in hopes of finding someone who will reach out so yeah...I will respond in what I am hoping is a nice and cordial manner and simply let them know the idea they are pitching doesn't work or I'm just not feeling it.
 
As someone who reaches out, I try to address the prompt in the request thread, what I like about that prompt, and share at least one idea - and then ask if they are still looking, suggesting that we can talk more in detail if so.

I do this last part for two reasons (1) it gives people an easy out to say that they're not still looking for that, and (2) I don't want to throw severally fully fleshed out ideas at people only for the person to no longer be looking. For the earlier bit, I want to let people know that I've read, and that I have some ideas to share.


I'm happy for any response that's cordial, though. Even if it's just to say that they're not interested in what I've suggested.
 
These days I tend to reach out to people, briefly introduce myself, and ask if they still have an opening. Makes it easier for someone to turn me down. If someone sends me a long message, I'll simply add something like 'Thank you for all the effort you put into your message' before I tell them why I am turning them down. I don't feel anyone owes anyone a 'long' reply.
 
I feel like explaining it too much invites the person to 'fix' the plot until it suits you. And usually by the first post, I have already decided that this pitch is not for me, and I don't want it to be 'fixed'.

It's like a game. You need a cooldown period before you can interact with me again or else you get a minus to our relationship points. :)
 
Nazgul said:
I feel like explaining it too much invites the person to 'fix' the plot until it suits you. And usually by the first post, I have already decided that this pitch is not for me, and I don't want it to be 'fixed'.
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So much this. I had someone reach out to me a while ago trying to get me to write their story, and the story had 0 aspects that appealed to me. I said so, and then like a month later they tried again, but had barely changed anything and I'm like "No. The whole concept doesn't appeal. Please stop asking."
 
Not having an RT, I almost never get approached for RP. It's pretty much always me doing the approaching. And I'm fine with that.

However, I can still turn down a pitch, even though I've made the initial approach, and I have done this occasionally.

In those cases, it will be because the person looks sufficiently good in their RT, but things change as you start chatting and exploring story options.

The RT is a static advertisement...but the chat is dynamic. You get a much better feel from the dynamic than from the static.

So...after a few back-and-forths of chat, once "the vibe" has established itself, it's just a case of saying something like "I'm really sorry, and I know I'm the one who approached you, but I don't get the feeling that this is going to work for either of us; I wish you all success in your search."
 
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