SinnersSalvation
Super-Earth
- Joined
- Jul 14, 2016
Have you ever had a partner who got really mad when a plot didn't work out because the plot was YOUR IDEA? LOL That shit is so crazy to me.
For sure. I definitely try not to give too many deep details about a plot beforehand. Usually it’s pretty general ideas. I prefer collaborating on ideas. But even if it’s a vague pairing, because it’s something I suggested they get hurt and upset when it doesn’t work out. Even something as vague as just teacher/student. lolHonestly,
Sometimes I've learned to see the warning signs of plots that are too specific in the request thread.
I'm not saying this is you, but I've been roleplaying for many many years, and I've learned to navigate clear of request threads that should really be something that the requester turns into an erotic story because they have very specific ideas in their head and it would inevitably be better (for them) if they just wrote a prose short story or novella and got their ideas out the way they want them.
Like I say, I'm not saying this is you... but I definitely lean toward more general request threads, and I also make sure we're on the same page of what the expectations are via OOC before I dive in.
Agreed. I learned this the hard way--twice.I'm not saying this is you, but I've been roleplaying for many many years, and I've learned to navigate clear of request threads that should really be something that the requester turns into an erotic story because they have very specific ideas in their head and it would inevitably be better (for them) if they just wrote a prose short story or novella and got their ideas out the way they want them.
LMAO, the last part sounds like gold. I wonder what their creative genius had to conribute by bitching about an RP they contacted the OP about was stupid. Like what, did they think it'd earn them a cookie?A few times yes and it is almost always because they did not pay attention to what I was saying! I am always very clear in during the discussion stage about what I like, what I want with the RP what the RP is about etc etc.
Seriously, I am a pain in the butt and I make that clear from the get go!
I even had one partner throw a hissy fit and run to her buddy the moderator and get all her posts deleted in our thread because my character kept mentioning a fetish that I was clear about wanting to explore in the prep stages of the RP! I was fucking clear!!
Had another one who got upset about an act of violence even though they actually agreed to it in the PM's. And another situation where the person thought the RP was stupid even though they contacted me.
Yeah it was weird. I told it was a slow burn kind of thing, I told them what I wanted to explore and although it was a weird theme it didn't mean that I wanted it to be obvious etc. They agreed to it all then got upset because what they really wanted was a smut fest.LMAO, the last part sounds like gold. I wonder what their creative genius had to conribute by bitching about an RP they contacted the OP about was stupid. Like what, did they think it'd earn them a cookie?
I've had the same thing sort of happening to me, where the person acted quite condescending and sarcastic about everything I proposed and talked to them about, to the point I refused to RP anymore and they threw a fit. Wasn't on Blue Moon, though.
Another time, a person said to come at them with a plot, so I followed the list of kinks and themes they had provided and they thought my idea was...lame? When I couldn't understand what exactly they meant by it since I stuck to what they liked. But I guess some people just aren't meant to be. I met one of my stable partners shortly after so it wasn't too bad at all.
Yeah, I try to be more selective over who I write with as well. I tend to go with my gut, and if someone doesn't strike me as the right partner while brainstorming, I will typically end things before they really start.Not since I was an adolescent writing fanfics and RPs with other adolescents. These days I'm pretty selective about my partners and go with my gut. It cuts down on creepiness and this sort of absurd drama 1000%.
You're probably right. People get really funny sometimes. lolAll the time. You just have to understand it is probably them. Review what you have, try to be mature about the situation and move on.
That happens a lot. You try to be clear about what you're looking for, but people don't always listen. Or sometimes they don't remember what you discussed.A few times yes and it is almost always because they did not pay attention to what I was saying! I am always very clear in during the discussion stage about what I like, what I want with the RP what the RP is about etc etc.
Seriously, I am a pain in the butt and I make that clear from the get go!
I even had one partner throw a hissy fit and run to her buddy the moderator and get all her posts deleted in our thread because my character kept mentioning a fetish that I was clear about wanting to explore in the prep stages of the RP! I was fucking clear!!
Had another one who got upset about an act of violence even though they actually agreed to it in the PM's. And another situation where the person thought the RP was stupid even though they contacted me.
Yep that is definitely the case of people not paying attention or remembering although it was a major aspect of the RP.That happens a lot. You try to be clear about what you're looking for, but people don't always listen. Or sometimes they don't remember what you discussed.
Running to the moderator seems slightly excessive and unnecessary.
I think that if you discuss kinks and limits beforehand, and they change during the RP, that's fine. You have to be honest and communicate. I can see why someone would be surprised if your character just reacts in a way that is counter to previous discussions, as opposed to having an OOC conversation about the change though. But if you communicate, and are honest, then there should be no reason for someone to get mad.I had a partner who got upset with me because my limits changed while the rp was ongoing. Mostly because he went in directions I wouldn't have imagined a primarily sexual rp to go, and discovered in real time that I wasn't into it. I have also had a partner who got upset that my character reacted realistically to theirs, instead of bending over backwards to accommodate his porn logic plot. I have come to learn that, just because I share interests in come kinks with many people on here, our approaches and expectations can still be very different.