Role Play vs In Real Life, how kinky are you?

[Room1334]

This is a question I always want to ask my partners and typically I am surprised, one way or the other! But I want to know, how kinky is your actual sex life compared to the level of kink you like to explore in your role play?

For an example; myself I said its closer than most Ive interact with! Some of my favorite kinks are Humiliating and Degrading, pet play, incest, age play, DD/lg, watersports and period sex! I actually love period sex the most IRL and when Im in a relationship its my favorite thing to do! Pet Play is one of those things that I haven’t had much experience with, I did have a girlfriend that liked to be peed on and DD/lg is a staple in my IRL sex life! Ive even had some experience with C-NC and definitely lots of humiliation and degradation

 

[obieblu]

I'm pretty vanilla IRL, though my vanilla is probably more modern vanilla than my grandparents' vanilla. I like the more standard toys, haven't used anything crazy. I don't have any strong kinks I act on, just a little up against a window light exhibitionism without knowing if anyone was actually watching. I let someone with a foot fetish do their thing to me, but I wasn't really into it. Yeah, my RPs are much more dark fantasies that I will probably never have an urge to do in real life. The way in which I'm the most different IRL than in RP is that I'm a top IRL, but my characters tend to be bottoms (willingly or otherwise). I'm a director of my characters, not playing myself. I will say the things I'm willing to RP have broadened since I started.

 

[Room1334]

I'm pretty vanilla IRL, though my vanilla is probably more modern vanilla than my grandparents' vanilla. I like the more standard toys, haven't used anything crazy. I don't have any strong kinks I act on, just a little up against a window light exhibitionism without knowing if anyone was actually watching. I let someone with a foot fetish do their thing to me, but I wasn't really into it. Yeah, my RPs are much more dark fantasies that I will probably never have an urge to do in real life. The way in which I'm the most different IRL than in RP is that I'm a top IRL, but my characters tend to be bottoms (willingly or otherwise). I'm a director of my characters, not playing myself. I will say the things I'm willing to RP have broadened since I started.

Thanks for sharing! it’s interesting to learn about people’s IRL kinks! why don’t you ever bottom IRL!

 

[obieblu]

Thanks for sharing! it’s interesting to learn about people’s IRL kinks! why don’t you ever bottom IRL!

Just literally only enjoyed it once, ever. No high-brow reason. Every rare occasion I do, I'm like "Yeah, that's why I don't do that." It's probably why my RP has gravitated there, because it's the fantasy of what that's like. I know and enjoy what's on the other side, so it doesn't dominate my fantasy life.

 

[Dirty Fingers]

I am into most of what I like to RP. I love CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) and use that as a base for a lot of my ideas. I am also into and intrigued by "unfairness" and/or double standards/inequality of power. Cuckolding rather than an open/poly relationship Female Led Relationships, being submissive rather than a relationship that is switch. I could go on but those things are the main factors for me. I enjoy the thought process both in real life and in RP that they bring. Also love reversing typical gender roles without making the male sissy or the female butch. So a naked man entertaining or serving clothed women for example as opposed to the more common naked female entertaining/serving men.

I've also been to brothels, seen escorts (all legal where I am) etc. So I have a better understanding of those places than many RP'ers in my experience playing RP with that theme.

As far as the darker stuff goes that is creative outlet only rather than real life passions.

This is an interesting subject as when you go though the RT's on most sites like this you tend to see similar ideas over and over and most are pretty "traditional" as far as gender roles go and subject matter.

 

[Room1334]

I am into most of what I like to RP. I love CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) and use that as a base for a lot of my ideas. I am also into and intrigued by "unfairness" and/or double standards/inequality of power. Cuckolding rather than an open/poly relationship Female Led Relationships, being submissive rather than a relationship that is switch. I could go on but those things are the main factors for me. I enjoy the thought process both in real life and in RP that they bring. Also love reversing typical gender roles without making the male sissy or the female butch. So a naked man entertaining or serving clothed women for example as opposed to the more common naked female entertaining/serving men.

I've also been to brothels, seen escorts (all legal where I am) etc. So I have a better understanding of those places than many RP'ers in my experience playing RP with that theme.

As far as the darker stuff goes that is creative outlet only rather than real life passions.

This is an interesting subject as when you go though the RT's on most sites like this you tend to see similar ideas over and over and most are pretty "traditional" as far as gender roles go and subject matter.

This was a very interesting take! Thank you for sharing! That’s awesome brothels and escorting is legal where you are from, wish that were true for me! Lol Do you ever think about exploring some of the darker elements of your RP for IRL?

 

[RedRose]

Vanilla with a twist? Certainly compared to my "darker" yesses/nos.

I do like many of my regular ons irl too. I love the "courting" both irl and online and a man who can take initiatives, who tends to act and dress traditional (that doesn't mean someone who cannot cook, more someone who sends flowers, pulls the chair, and generally is traditional minded, perhaps for Americans, the more classic European style). I like possessiveness but not stalkers, etc, basically the moderate "yesses"

When the mood strikes I'm absolutely into a bit (a bit!) of force, maybe pulling my hair or being a bit rough, holding my head down more as a token than preventing me from breathing. But as a bedroom thingy, not as Something serious or a lifestyle. Being called a slut can be hot in bed, it's NOT anywhere else

 

[DisenchantedWanderer]

Roughly everything I'm into roleplay wise (barring the ones that are unrealistic) is pretty much what I'm into IRL, it might just be shades lighter depending on what it is for safety/reality.

 

[Father Figure]

-smirks- If it slides into the illegal/non-consent in reality then I am very much not into it. Outside of that...I wouldn't consider it a turn on if it wasn't.

 

[Shiver]

I'm somewhat kinky in practice (bondage, costumes, etc...), but if I weren't using RP to push things past the point of real world activity, then what'd be the point of it?

 

[Room1334]

Roughly everything I'm into roleplay wise (barring the ones that are unrealistic) is pretty much what I'm into IRL, it might just be shades lighter depending on what it is for safety/reality.

what’s most taboo or kinky thing you’ve explored IRL..I might start another thread for sexy bed time stories Lol but please feel free to indulge us

 

[Room1334]

-smirks- If it's slides into the illegal/non-consent in reality then I am very much not into it. Outside of that...I wouldn't consider it a turn on if it wasn't.

Ummm don’t get yourself attested buddy, but if you’re talking CONSENSUAL non-Consent then yes Im all for it too! My ex was into role playing a lot, one of her favorite scenes was she would pretend to be sleeping and I was “sneaking into her room” to inappropriately play with her and she liked to tell me “I don’t feel like having sex” but would tease me until I had my way with her. Using a safe word is important when diving into these darker elements of role playing

 

[Room1334]

I'm somewhat kinky in practice (bondage, costumes, etc...), but if I weren't using RP to push things past the point of real world activity, then what'd be the point of it?

Push things past the point of reality is one thing, trust me, I get it 100% I just read over your RT, and obviously we can’t travel to distant worlds or really have sex with alien species, or say like myself, I do have a pension for gore and violence, some degrees to which I could never explore unless I intended to spend the rest of my life in prison, Haha! there are some things that are extreme but I would totally be down to explore if the right IRL partner presents themselves, like Pet Play, Branding/Permanent Marking, and as you mentioned liking to wear costumes, it would be hot asf if I had sex with a girl in cosplay as a Twi'lek!

I guess I’m also curious if people have explored something in RP first online, never intending or thinking it would be something they could explore IRL say, piss play, or humiliation, but after role playing online with such elements, having had the desire to test it out IRL, discovering they really do like it IRL as well. I think thats how Consensual Non-Consent happened for me. Also I wondered for women who like to play total sluts online ever think about actually getting gang banged for instance, or blowing a random guy like how you might in a Smut Heavy RP

 

[Father Figure]

Ummm don’t get yourself attested buddy, but if you’re talking CONSENSUAL non-Consent then yes Im all for it too! My ex was into role playing a lot, one of her favorite scenes was she would pretend to be sleeping and I was “sneaking into her room” to inappropriately play with her and she liked to tell me “I don’t feel like having sex” but would tease me until I had my way with her. Using a safe word is important when diving into these darker elements of role playing

-laughs- I said outside of that, I meant other kinks beyond the first thing I'd mentioned. Like I said, if it's illegal or non-consenting then I'm very much not into it. I have no problem with the not being arrested part, jail time doesn't mix with enjoying life.

 

[Xywel]

Ey there!

Just my two cents: Got to admit I'm quite a bit less kinky in RL than I am in RP. One of the boring people, so to speak. I do love myself some good games and fun before getting to business. Light bondage and some costumes before the deed do enhance the experience, after all!

 

[Room1334]

Ey there!

Just my two cents: Got to admit I'm quite a bit less kinky in RL than I am in RP. One of the boring people, so to speak. I do love myself some good games and fun before getting to business. Light bondage and some costumes before the deed do enhance the experience, after all!

Hey its no right or wrong answer! thanks for sharing! Care to divulge a little more What kind of games get you in the mood, or perhaps costumes do you find yourself dressing up in?

 

[RedRose]

I've had ideas from RPs, but Nothing that wouldn't interest me at all before. Just ideas. That said my tastes did get slightly more kinky over time while rping. Mmmm.

 

[Xywel]

Well, blindfolds are always nice, as well as some good old tickle-play and riddles to get the mood going. And costumes-wise, everything from fantasy stuff to sexy lingerie is a go. Depends on the mood.

 

[Room1334]

I've had ideas from RPs, but Nothing that wouldn't interest me at all before. Just ideas. That said my tastes did get slightly more kinky over time while rping. Mmmm.

Now that’s what I like to hear

 

[Room1334]

Well, blindfolds are always nice, as well as some good old tickle-play and riddles to get the mood going. And costumes-wise, everything from fantasy stuff to sexy lingerie is a go. Depends on the mood.

Hmm Tickles yes Ive employed, but riddles, how so? Also if you have to choose, fantasy cosplay or sexy lingerie, which is more likely to be the go to? Also can you give us a favorite costume?

 

[Xywel]

Hahaha, lots of questions here. ;P

Riddle-wise, something simple like doing a game of 'guess the item' that you stroke your partner with while they can't see. Or just random (often sex-themed) riddles, that have the penalty that if you answer wrong, you must lose a piece of clothing.

Sexy lingerie is often the go-to to my partner (if we do costumes at all, because most days it's just too much trouble, haha). Go-to costume would be a fighter/merc for me and a huntress for my partner. Although to be fair... kneesocks and the most fancy set of lingerie looks quite stunning on her.

 

[Royal Moonbutt]

I am as vanilla as you could possibly get in real life, heck I am still a virgin. You would never know with by how much lewd things I write but I am pretty plain over all xD

 

[Dirty Fingers]

This was a very interesting take! Thank you for sharing! That’s awesome brothels and escorting is legal where you are from, wish that were true for me! Lol Do you ever think about exploring some of the darker elements of your RP for IRL?

Thanks. When I do a brothel/prostitution RP I always stipulate that it is set in a society where it is legal as it makes it more interesting. The darker stuff tends to be illegal as well as immoral so no I won't do that in real life!

 

[Lady Vanki]

Same, but much less basically. I haven't really done anything in a while though, RL speaking.

 

[Mtvarisa]

I am 26 years old and had just 4 boyfriends in my life.
And 2 one night stands (and that was long time ago)

Is it kinky? I don't know. I don't have bf right now, we broke apart for quite some time and I don't have out-of-relationship sex.

As of kinks... I find that most things I find stimulating and fun in roleplays and fantasies, is not what I like in real. (forced for example or many other things).
Vanilla sex is pretty satisfying for me and I am aroused more than enough by just being fucked by the guy I'm in love with to not need any other stimuli...

By vanilla sex I don't mean the boring one. Many dirty things are still there of course But we don't "Dom/sub" and I wouldn't like a group sex of any kind in real life (even though in roleplaying fantasies it's hot).