What will make you always respond or send a message?

[Nykar]

So, I asked what makes people ghost or ignore a message and I got a ton of great feedback. Goodman really stood out but all of them were great and very insightful. But now I want to change it up a little. What makes you ALWAYS respond? What gets your heart beating just a little faster when you read something in your inbox? What do you see in a request thread that makes you start typing furiously?

 

[lasciel]

On the OOC side: Pretty much anyone hitting me up with "Hey, that plot centered on the kinda' weird kink you have? I wanna play that!" with an opening PM that displays a solid grasp of grammar and spelling. Bonus points if they have writing samples available either via a posting history or their own request page.

On the IC side: A fantastic intro post!

On the "their" RT side: Compatible overall interests, an expressed interest in playing as a dragon for dragon-on-human(oid) pairings, and a displayed interest in plot over smut.

 

[Chai]

Good introductions in PM’s always catch my eye. Like Goodman, I’m a sucker for a little flattery. “So I’ve seen your request thread before and had a good laugh!” It’s an introduction before getting into the nitty gritty of RP, and it’s one that catches my attention because it’s ego stroking, lol.

Alternatively, I always respond if the sender lets a little bit of their personality through the PM. If they’re funny, witty, sarcastic—those are all qualities I look for in a partner because it means, more often than not, we’re going to get along regardless of what the actual RP is about. I don’t necessarily look for RP’s based on the story itself, but more so on whether or not the partner is a good fit. Do I get along with them? Can I shoot the shit every once in a while? Do I feel comfortable around them?

For an actual roleplay, responses that push the story forward and get me thinking always make me feel compelled to reply—sometimes immediately, which is rare for me.

When looking at request threads, I respond to the ones that come off very chill and easygoing. No bolded demands, no list of rules, no secret “passwords” to put in a PM to ensure that I’ve read it. I value having a good time, communication, and being understandable above hard and fast rules. I also respond to people that list out plots as opposed to just pairings. The latter comes across lazy to me, and doesn’t really tell me anything they want out of it. “Human x succubus” could be anything—do you want a romance to develop between the two? Is the human thrown into an adventure through hell? Does the succubus exist to torment the human and make them go insane? Even if none of the plots are things I would normally go for, I appreciate that someone has taken the time and effort to write a little blurb about what they want to roleplay.

 

[Sophor]

It's easy to say as a guy, but I feel you should reply to every message. Being ignored just sucks, if you get an uninspired one liner then reply in kind, just a short 'sorry, I'm not interested' is enough. I feel most females who get buried under a pile of PMs like this forget, or never learned, how much this uncertainty sucks.

 

[Deante]

I generally try to reply to all messages, unless it's really...not...encouraging. And will send a message if I see that we're compatible and there's potential? That's not really helpful.

That said, one guy not only read my req thread, but did his research going through other threads and sent me multiple plots. I was so flattered[/i I couldn't not reply]. Nevermind that it turned out to be my currently longest running RP, I was just not used to someone taking so much time and interest in me.

 

[Skylar]

So, I asked what makes people ghost or ignore a message and I got a ton of great feedback. Goodman really stood out but all of them were great and very insightful. But now I want to change it up a little. What makes you ALWAYS respond? What gets your heart beating just a little faster when you read something in your inbox? What do you see in a request thread that makes you start typing furiously?

Communication is the key to success. I always respond to people regardless of what they've sent me. The only time I will not respond to someone is if they're trying to start something and in that case, I simply block/ignore them. If I had to single out any one thing though when it comes to responding to someone? It would be when someone understands the basic difference in specific words. Usually, this means words in reference to gender. An example being, when people understand that trans women are not "futas." I've actually come to dislike that word because of the number of people that don't seem to understand what it means or the difference in it compared to real-world terms, ones that are not specifically used in hentai.

 

[Echosmith]

If they have definitely read my request thread and legitimately want to actually make a story not just a porno.

They give me ideas.

They don't come across as arrogant assholes in their PM or own request thread. I do browse request threads of the ones that send me messages because I've seen people brag about being the best of the best and that request thread or thread sample have proven otherwise.

 

[Lurker]

I always reply to PMs, no exceptions. It does not mean that it will lead to an RP, but if am over capacity, or feel that we are not compatible for whatever reason, I will take the time to politely explain what I believe the issue is. There is no excuse for being rude to a non-confrontational person, and I find ignoring messages to be rude. I guess I'm old-fashioned that way.

Some time ago I received a PM on Elliquiy from a person that liked one of my suggested plots and wanted to play it. I politely pointed out that her posted preferences expressed dislike for some of my main kinks, and that her strong preference for playing submissive characters was not a good fit for that plot. She replied saying that was willing to compromise on all fronts. I then told her that I have a lot on my plate and that responses will be very slow. She responded saying that she would wait patiently. We now have an RP going -- I just couldn't refuse a "I really want to RP with you and will adapt to your requirements" attitude, but that would not happen If I had brushed her off.

I rarely respond to request threads. My preferences are uncommon, and compatible writers are few and in-between, and usually have a waiting list longer than a Canadian winter. It is not as much of a problem now since I got several RPs going, but I had to compromise on several aspects to get to that point.

 

[CindyHarrison]

Every few days I'll look over RP requests....if the poster's name sounds interesting or the plot(s) are something I'd like to try I'll respond

 

[DaL]

This is fairly hard question to answer. With the anxiety of real life and the worries of trying to make good replies, I've ended up ghosting more than a couple times here. I can't even bring myself to type up why. I'm fairly certain my anxiety could be classified as a disorder. Then I feel ashamed and end up hiding from the site for months... So it's hard to gauge what keeps me there when this problem jumps in the way.

Best answer I can give is when my partner vocalizes she's really enjoying the RP and is fairly chill and accepting. Decent writing really helps, but specifically with pacing. The climax should feel like an actual climax. lol

 

[RedRose]

I almost always respond unless it's "hi"...

 

[Yoga Princess]

I respond to most of my emails and PMs across the internet as a courtesy to the sender.