I'm not sure if I wouldn't consider myself a 'gamer', it's not the core thing that defines my hobby space these days, but of course I enjoy playing quite a bit too.
Recently some friends started playing League again, so we are having a blast there recently. I always felt the game's community isn't quite as bad as people make it out, or at least that it doesn't have to affect you as much.
People are flaming, arguing? Don't write mean stuff in the chat yourself, be above it and if necessary mute the troll, that alone usually helps a lot ^^
Other than League I mostly play calm turn based things. I love optimizing things, it's like solving a puzzle and is a much bigger draw for me than hyperactive action.
Examples here woule be Slay the Spire, Tales of Maj'Eyal or most recently Endless Legend