So, I was perusing the Female request threads, and ran across Afterglow's. It was well written, quite clear, and I applaud her on her writing ability - I think she's going to make a lovely addition to BMR.
I was about to move on when I noticed Gashnaw's response:
So I had to go back and re-read AG's post, just to see what he was on about.
Which started me thinking - does she have something there? Or is it simply an interpretation of the occasionally overly flowery way that some people write sex scenes (Guilty, on occasion, of this myself). And what does this say for the men who play female characters (or the females who play male ones, for that matter) since it's obvious that, virgin or not, you won't have actually experienced sex as the opposite gender. Can someone who hasn't had that experience effectively write about it?
Also, I want to say this up front, I'm opening this topic for actual discussion, not to mock/bash Afterglow or Gashnaw. So if you want to do that, please fuck off and start your thread.
My own comments.
I don't think it's necessary to have had personal experience to make an effective writer (regardless of the topic) but I do think the experience helps. By the same token, I have known some role players who have definitely had sex (though now a days giving birth is not always proof of sex), who couldn't write a sex scene if their lives depended on it. They fumble through it like a drunken prom date, and everyone spends the next hour or so scratching their heads like "Was it good? I've no idea. It didn't suck too badly."
So BMR, what do you think? Does lack of sex equate to poor sex scenes, or is it just that some people can't write?
I was about to move on when I noticed Gashnaw's response:
Gashnaw said:I am interested in RPing with you, however only one thing bugs me.
How the hell can you determine if someone has truly had sex just by their writing. I mean when I cyber or RP, when it comes to a sex scene, depending on the situation it can be rough sex, Soft sex, passionate love making or just a outright fuckfest. Sometimes with bondage and toys sometimes without.
Putting that aside, some people are amazing writers and can convince you they are not virgins, where sometimes the non virgins are just not convincing enough to make you think they've had sex.
Truthfully, I highly doubt Having sex or not has an effect on your skill in writing.
So I had to go back and re-read AG's post, just to see what he was on about.
Afterglow said:-- someone who has actually HAD sex before, not just read/watched it (believe me, it shows in your writing)
Which started me thinking - does she have something there? Or is it simply an interpretation of the occasionally overly flowery way that some people write sex scenes (Guilty, on occasion, of this myself). And what does this say for the men who play female characters (or the females who play male ones, for that matter) since it's obvious that, virgin or not, you won't have actually experienced sex as the opposite gender. Can someone who hasn't had that experience effectively write about it?
Also, I want to say this up front, I'm opening this topic for actual discussion, not to mock/bash Afterglow or Gashnaw. So if you want to do that, please fuck off and start your thread.
My own comments.
I don't think it's necessary to have had personal experience to make an effective writer (regardless of the topic) but I do think the experience helps. By the same token, I have known some role players who have definitely had sex (though now a days giving birth is not always proof of sex), who couldn't write a sex scene if their lives depended on it. They fumble through it like a drunken prom date, and everyone spends the next hour or so scratching their heads like "Was it good? I've no idea. It didn't suck too badly."
So BMR, what do you think? Does lack of sex equate to poor sex scenes, or is it just that some people can't write?