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Mastrubation: Good or Bad?

I concur it is a GOOD thing. :) I masterbate at least once every other day, having sometimes as many as four orgasms each session. But then, too, I'm not getting all of my needs met at home, so I compensate with the use of toys and porn. :D

Would be curious how many of you out there like to watch porn while masterbating?
 
I masturbate at least once a day, and while there's some truth to the conditioning thing Ms. Muffintops talks about, that's true of any repeated activity. Eating, movie-watching, working -- anything can condition you if you've got some kind of reward system. It's all individual, is the problem.

For me, the conditioning isn't the problem, I don't think -- it's that if I found myself in an intimate situation again, I think the psychological pressure and nervousness would make functionality difficult. I'm over 40, the hormones no longer flow strongly enough to overwhelm all other opposition. And after all these years being involuntarily celibate, that pressure to perform is going to be fucking intense (pun intended). I don't want to miss my chance, it could be my last opportunity, and that desire is going to fuck up my ability to actually do anything.

So, don't be me, in other words.

But that has nothing to do with masturbation. Everybody's different. There's no physical health risks, your morality is your own business, and psychological difficulties vary widely with the individual. Vague enough for you?
 
I feel masturbating is completely normal and healthy. If I had the time I'd probably masturbate every day but if truth be told, even when I don't have the chance I'm probably thinking about it and wishing that I did!
 
I think masturbation is entirely normal and acceptable, hell I even encourage my significant other to do it... but maybe I'm just naughty :p
 
If I wasn't supposed to masturbate my penis would not be so conveniently placed right in grasping range.
 
In another millenium, when I was a boy, some of us were "getting lectured" about "grown-up shit" and our counselor intoned, "... And if y'all have practiced masturbation....". We all looked at each other and said, "Ojeez, you gotta practice?"
 
I really don't see why anybody would have something against masturbation for any other reason than religion, and they are likely just deny the fact that they masturbate even though they do. Obviously not everybody likes to masturbate, some don't like to touch them self, or just don't like their own genitals. But if it feels good, and it's not hurting anybody, what's the harm? I mean sure it can technically lead to a dulling of the nerves in men, but that just means we last longer, which I suppose ends up as a bonus for women.

I masturbate quite often, even though I'm in a very physical relationship, and so does my girlfriend.
 
It seems as though most have put up a positive to this question, and I'd like to post something a little different.... I think it's physically healthy and expected. However, I do think it can be emotionally harmful in some cases. Depending on how you grow up and how your parents approach it the entire topic and act of masturbation can be traumatizing. I grew up in a very conservative household where my parents even went so far as to tell that masturbating could cause me to not be able to get pregnant later in life, and I believed them for a good while. Along with that it was considered "slutty" by my family and elders. I noticed some others commented on the terms of being "damned in God's eyes," and that's pretty literal.

There are also a series of books that have come out in the last ten or so years that discuss masturbation to be the same as sex in terms of the harm it can cause to do it before marriage. The books include theories on it like:
it's cheating on your future partner
it's cheating your future partner out of discovering how to please you themselves
it can create patterns in your life cycle that will be unrealistic in your married life
it could create an addiction
it could cause you to act out sexually towards another person
it could cause you to turn to porn for release


And that is just to name a few of the things discussed. The one I read/was force to read was called "Every Young Women's Battle" and there is an "Every Young Man's Battle" which discusses the same topics. There is also "Sex God" (I found this one more enjoyable, discussed sex in a more abstract way and encouraged self confidence) and "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" which touch on similar topics.

Though I found and still find faults with a lot of what I read, and after moving out of my parents home was able to have the topic better explored (physically, mentally, and in conversation) I found a lot of the explanations made good points. If you truly want to hold yourself for one person, it could very well be put in the WRONG category. It can cause severe guilt and issues in self confidence.

Masturbation at a young age can also be attributed to having been molested. If that's the case then it can be very harmful to your identification of a healthy sexual experience.

Like I said I think ultimately it's physically healthy. It's no different than having sex, it has the same effect on your body. But..... I also think the mental an emotional aspects can be harmful and very unhealthy in some cases. Then again maybe I'm just playing devil's advocate, or maybe I just felt like sharing a real life experience that i ordinarily don't get a chance to touch on.
 
I don't think there's anything wrong with it, though to be honest I've only met one person in my life who seems to think there is something wrong with it, but she's kinda prude for no real reason. I mean her stand on masturbation is that it feels weird and uncomfortable to her. So I don't really try to talk her into it or anything, I just let her be. But if I'm talking to one of my guy friends and that subject pops up, she gets super defensive and overly aggressive about her views on the matter, so sometimes I think she's just repressed or something. But anyways, I'm kinda ranting here...

I personally think there's nothing wrong with it, and I think there's a big problem with parents shoving their religious views onto their children so aggressively that they start to become afraid of it. I honestly think that is the root of most of the issues in the bedroom among married couples who 'wait for the right person'. I have nothing against religion, but I think religion tends to make people too closed minded about romance. It's really not as simple as religion wants you to believe in my opinion. Romance and sex are complicated, you can't always find one person and be lucky enough to end up with them for life, sex is one of the best ways to find out who you're compatible with, and masturbation is kinda like a stepping stone to all of that, I mean know what pleases you and what doesn't and being able to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about it is, in my opinion, the best track to a successful relationship.​
 
Oh god, don't masturbate!

You'll get hair on your knuckles, go blind, offend christ - who's watching you like a pervert when you least suspect it, and worst of all, you just might enjoy it. In all seriousness, if it feels good do it, and enjoy the hell out of it. Close your eyes and let the theater of your mind fill with images of bosses, teachers, siblings, same sex friends, complex geometric shapes, or whatever the hell floats your boat.

Laci Green from Planned Parenthood made an entertaining video on this and has a nice little informative website about it.

http://lacigreen.tv/tag/masturbation
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hZdykKzUdj0
 
Masturbation is good for you, and me, and yes sex is better.... Unless you know what your doing with a toy and the guy doesn't have a clue, I had many a night a guy had his fun and after he was asleep I rubbed away. ;) I like to masturbate and if I go blind I don't care... Because I can still masturbate.
 
Well, it all depends on how you look at it.

It's bad you have to do it, but it's good you're getting something.


It's really a grey area, built solely on perspective and personal opinion.
 
I think masturbation is good for you :)
Not only because it feels good but it also helps you emotionally and keeps your emotions more level but also increases good health :)
 
Nothing wrong with masturbation. It is better to do it regularly than not at all. But this is from the guy perspective. Not masturbating caused problem after I broke up with my first gf (I let her go because she broke my trust).
 
I think its a good thing. I think people that say its bad for you are a bit silly. However sex is better. I have always said I wouldn't do it if I had someone to do it for me.

the period in my life where I masterbated every night before I went to sleep is the period in my life in which I slept the best. I don't do it as often now, and honestly don't sleep as well.
 
It depends really.

Is masturbation all you think about?
Is fapping all you do?
Does it interfere with your outside life? i.e: school, work, relationshipa, yada, yada, yada....

If you answered yes to all three you prolly should slow down....like a lot.

lol. Anyway, masturbation is good and bad. Too much of a good thing is often bad... Honestly to me it depends upon the person. I masturbate for hours on and off throughout a day. I really don't know how many times in a week I get off....or how many days a week I fap. Some might say it's chronic for moi...but.. Y'know I can still function in bed and in life so it's all good. When I start screwing myself in public....only then will I consider how much I masturbate a problem.
 
i don't technically masturbate too much D=
i'm scared of getting things dirty or stained
so i keep it all in my underwear
> o>
 
The Adventurer said:
i don't technically masturbate too much D=
i'm scared of getting things dirty or stained
so i keep it all in my underwear
> o>
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might want to try tissues. they are good at containing messes...
 
The_Gladiator said:
The Adventurer said:
i don't technically masturbate too much D=
i'm scared of getting things dirty or stained
so i keep it all in my underwear
> o>
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might want to try tissues. they are good at containing messes...
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i suppose?
i have a lot of books just littered around my room and my computer and if something goes wrong i at least want it to be able to be washed out, y'know? D=
 
I believe it is a healthy thing to do that makes a person feel good, but like others said, don't let it be the only thing you think about all the time. That would be too much of a good thing.

Also it helps you sleep better~ ;)
 
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