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Receiving non-rp PMs from strangers

SEM Aftermath

SEM Aftermath

Kidnapper on the prowl
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Aug 16, 2010
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Hello everyone, I have found myself sending messages to people simply to tell them that I really enjoyed the look and layout of their different threads. One of the things I am enjoying on BMR is designing my different threads.

Here is my question for everyone: Do you mind receiving messages out of the blue from strangers that have nothing to do with role playing, and are simply complimenting and commenting on your threads?

I always try to be a very friendly person (OOC), so it just seems natural to me to message someone to simply say "nice profile [and what I liked about it specifically]" Is that something that people take in a positive way or negative?
 
I've absolutely messaged people, and told them I like the look of their profile, or their journal, or that I enjoy seeing them around the site. I don't think it's strange at all, and it creates a friendlier environment, in my experience. There might be some people who don't like getting those kinds of messages, but I think those are very few and far between.
 
I always enjoy receiving those whether in private messages or on my profile posts. As SS said I think it creates a nice, friendly environment c:
 
I tend to be on my guards as i’d like to focus on that hobby, plus, i remember receiving some.. 'Weird' things before.

It honestly depends of my mood, maybe i will accept, maybe not.
 
I'll be the odd one out here and say that I don't really enjoy them. I'm rarely approached with PMs since I'm more of a lurker most of the time, but I do come into this site with the mentality of engaging in the hobby (roleplaying) and so I prefer to keep it that way. I'm perfectly fine just shooting the shit OOC with the people I'm RPing (I'm also fine just keeping to the RP if my partners prefer that).

I don't really enjoy idle chitchat IRL and that's also true online. I'll still be polite and reply as best as I can, but I find it difficult without a certain something to keep the conversation going.
 
Happens to me a fair bit and I can't say I mind it as long as the person in question is respectful and not trying to be a weirdo. Most of the time it's usually complimenting my thread, talking about a niche video game, a soundtrack I mention, or my artworks is some of the random PM's I've gotten over the years, almost everyone that's reached out has been kind and chill. I've had the few people who didn't seem to take a hint-- asking me about my day literally every single day (I have no problems with my RP partners doing this, but this was just a stranger at this point!) and wanting to know what I ate for lunch... like... it started to get a bit odd at that point. I have no qualms about idle chit chat but there's only so much we can talk about if we're not talking about video games or planning potential RP's at least on here for me!

So all in all, within limits I enjoy it, but when it crosses a line it becomes a tad annoying.
 
I generally will message and compliment a person. I've pretty much stopped due to several here who have not been very lovely in return. I will usually add "no need to reply back as this was just a compliment". I find the private messages are sometimes better than spamming a person's profile page or commenting in their threads. Though, I do not do that here, or anywhere really anymore as the hostility of "I'm not taking on partners" when complimenting their thread/writing or "how did you find me" when complimenting an avatar or cover images, kind of turns a person off from reaching out to compliment others. <shrugs>
 
In general I don't mind it. Have gotten people complimenting my thread(s) and just talk about some more niche fandom which is fun. As long as it stays comfy and doesn't go into any weird territory I am fine with it.

Another situation where I am not fine with it is when person outright spoils me stuff I am currently experiencing. You would think that putting huge plot twists etc. inside a spoiler would make sense, but nah. Casually got one of the huge twists of my favorite visual novels spoiled before I got to it, and one pretty huge spoiler in more niche anime that I had just started to watch before the person slides into my DMs to discuss it, and then goes to say how this spoiler-y thing at the end of the series was their favorite part. This is the reason why I nowadays put at least vague prosess of the anime, manga/manhwa/webtoon, visual novel or game if I am in the middle of it.
 
Mint said:
I've had the few people who didn't seem to take a hint-- asking me about my day literally every single day (I have no problems with my RP partners doing this, but this was just a stranger at this point!) and wanting to know what I ate for lunch... like... it started to get a bit odd at that point.
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I was cracking the fuck up on my lunch break today; there ain't no WAY someone messaged you and asked this shit roflmao.

On the thread subject, I'm 100% cool with compliments and apologies sent my way, but I draw the line at wanting to know what I ate that day if I don't know you. Shit, even if I do know you, we better have been pivoting to food in our heavy-handed RP discussion, and you're not asking me that out of nowhere. That's insane.
 
SoleAccord said:
I was cracking the fuck up on my lunch break today; there ain't no WAY someone messaged you and asked this shit roflmao.

On the thread subject, I'm 100% cool with compliments and apologies sent my way, but I draw the line at wanting to know what I ate that day if I don't know you. Shit, even if I do know you, we better have been pivoting to food in our heavy-handed RP discussion, and you're not asking me that out of nowhere. That's insane.
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It's wild man, I think the only person who'd ask me what I had for lunch is my own mother and I doubt she'd care that much lol. People just be asking the strangest things to complete strangers!
 
Mint said:
It's wild man, I think the only person who'd ask me what I had for lunch is my own mother and I doubt she'd care that much lol. People just be asking the strangest things to complete strangers!
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Shit, I wish someone did that to me!

Wait until someone asks you what kind of socks or shoes you are wearing and if they might get a pic of them out of curiosity & totally SFW purposes.

Yes it's happened to me, no I didn't send them a picture of hairy Hobbit feet in return.

For all the actual perverts : today I wore black ones w/ a pair of navy blue Converse.
 
It’s always nice to receive compliments and I never minded when I lady sent one my way. (I have yet to receive a pm from a gentlemen)
 
I want to say it's a spectrum, but in my experience, it's two wildly differing situations. Either it's a comment or compliment on a story I am writing, in which case it may as well be heroin, pump it straight into my veins. Yes, I will gush about my stories with you, I fucking love them too! Oh, wanna here the funny inside jokes my partner and I made about that scene, or the meme that inspired that other sequence? Here's a dozen scenes I wrote that didn't make it in the story, because I love writing these characters so much.

Otherwise it's the most dull, thought-terminating one liner of a pm you can imagine. "Hi! How are you?" Huh? Who is this? Why are you messaging me? I got all excites to get a push notification and it's this bullshit? Okay, maybe in my more polite and patient days, I would response. More inane bullshit, inching towards that subtle suggestion of an rp they are too fucking chickenshit to actually solicit. And what they're looking for it either the most boring, cliche pairing or kink - not even a story to go with the mindlessly smut! Or it's a fucking niche as hell kink that they think they can guilt you into playing, because they can't find anyone else. :rolleyes:
 
I don't mind receiving DMs like this myself, but as I know message boxes can get cluttered; if it's just for the sake of a compliment, I'll instead post something on their profile.
 
I enjoy getting non-rp messages but there's another side to that, a side that women here can sometimes identify with. On another site (and no, I'm not going to disclose what), I had a guy that started out friendly enpugh but as the PM's went on, he started asking me very personal things, eventually peaking when he asked what color of bra I was wearing.
 
Putting aside being staff and getting PMs to help people, I've gotten a few people complementing my RPs on site and it's flattering. I would be a bit sketch of sometime I don't know pming me to talk about stuff but I would ask if they had a reason to do so.
 
I've had a few people I don't talk to on-site adding me on Discord just to chat since I shared my discord username in my RT. I was surprised at first, but it was interesting.
 
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