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What is the best way to end a RP?

karinaaaa

karinaaaa

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Honestly sometimes I don’t vibe with a person but ghosting is too harsh. How would you approach this… Without hurting the person too much. Ugh…
 
Honestly, I just tell them. "Hey, sorry, but I just don't think this is working for me. We may just have different styles/be looking for different things from this RP/RPs in general. I do wish you the best of luck on your future roleplays!"
 
Just be honest with them. Most are better with a "not really feelin' it. my apologies" than just no word.. I am guilty of ghosting, though the majority is just a chaotic life that keeps me away from the keyboard, or losing track of messages.

But, remember, we're here to have fun. We're not getting paid to write with anyone, and honesty is sometimes the best method... good luck to you and your tales 🧡
 
totally get where you're coming from. it can be really tricky when the chemistry just isn't there, but you also don't want to hurt someone's feelings or come off cold. i think the best approach is being honest and gentle. something like:
"hey! i've really appreciated writing with you, but i think our styles/characters just aren't clicking the way i hoped. i don't want to keep dragging it out and risk burning out. i hope you understand—and no hard feelings at all!"
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it gives closure without placing blame, and it leaves the door open for future good vibes without committing to more. just being respectful and clear can go a long way. most people will appreciate that you took the time to say something instead of disappearing.
 
Cat said:
totally get where you're coming from. it can be really tricky when the chemistry just isn't there, but you also don't want to hurt someone's feelings or come off cold. i think the best approach is being honest and gentle. something like:

it gives closure without placing blame, and it leaves the door open for future good vibes without committing to more. just being respectful and clear can go a long way. most people will appreciate that you took the time to say something instead of disappearing.
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That’s reallyy good wow :D
 
These are some really good answers already. This isn’t necessary, but I’ll add this final part I usually put in my message when I’m ending a rp. “Please feel free to use anything we planned or wrote together,” as another way of showing support in their endeavors with new partners and show you hold no ill will. Sure they don’t need your permission, but it’s another sign of showing kindness and wishing them the best. It also means all of the planning doesn’t go to waste.
 
Something I learned after ending a few RPs that just weren't working out for me was:

- Being grateful for their time and their investment in their creativity and their energy
- Bringing up what you loved best when it came to writing the story with them rather than focusing only on the negative
- Being honest with what didn't work so they don't guess on what went wrong
- Wishing them the best with future stories and future partners

Same way when it comes to ending any relationship on good terms. A little bit of a different story if the person on the other end pulls a red flag, but if the ending of the story just comes from life or a waning of interest due to circumstances, then I personally believe that this is the best way to go. I haven't ghosted since the beginning of last year and I found out that doing this had allowed me to end things cordially, leaving room open to exploring future stories if I think they were cool but it was bad timing or closing it off without bad blood. Hope this helps!
 
Tenzai said:
Being honest with what didn't work so they don't guess on what went wrong
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I think this particular line helps a lot, even if it is a bitter pill to swallow on the other persons part. Of course, sometimes its just things like the vibes are off, or you just aren't enjoying the idea as much as you thought you would be - but sometimes the best way we can improve as writers is if we know where we're stumbling at. I've had a few ex partners do this with me and I appreciated the honesty even if it sucked to hear.
 
When I read this, I thought it was in regards to a fun, complete experience where you and your partner delivered on what you set to do, and how to send your characters off into the sunset with that FIN screen.

I now realize is this much worse, lol.

Honestly, I try to just be upfront about things. They probably won't like it. Or they'll leave the conversation instantly, or try to talk through it.

I usually get insulted and blocked.

Just another Wednesday, really.
 
Seranda said:
When I read this, I thought it was in regards to a fun, complete experience where you and your partner delivered on what you set to do, and how to send your characters off into the sunset with that FIN screen.
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That was what I expected to find here too!

I wonder if part of the issue is a lack of planned endings. It seems like a lot of folks here are either going for a one shot or forever. The latter essentially dooms you to eventual disappointment.

So if you've had a good run, but things are getting stale, try giving it a proper ending. You might find that breathes life back in. It's pretty typical for hit TV series to keep going until they suck and people have stopped watching, but then they generate big interest and ratings with a finale.
 
Wapato said:
That was what I expected to find here too!

I wonder if part of the issue is a lack of planned endings. It seems like a lot of folks here are either going for a one shot or forever. The latter essentially dooms you to eventual disappointment.

So if you've had a good run, but things are getting stale, try giving it a proper ending. You might find that breathes life back in. It's pretty typical for hit TV series to keep going until they suck and people have stopped watching, but then they generate big interest and ratings with a finale.
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From the moment we start, we are moving towards the end.
 
I think it varies based on how long you were writing together. If I've been writing with them for a couple years, they are totally get a long and heartfelt message from me.

If we are three posts in? "Sorry, I gotta tap out on this story. Good luck."

Really, less is more. Ghosting is about not letting the other person know you are leaving. Just telling them you are leaving without a reason, means you are one step ahead of other people. Now they aren't waiting around and they can look for a new partner for that extra time they suddenly have.

"I'm sorry, when plotting I thought I was really going to enjoy this story, but it's just not keeping my interest. Good luck in your search."

That's pretty generic and doesn't cast blame on them.
 
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