I'm already pretty vanilla in my kinks, so I don't approach partners who have non-vanilla kinks in their list...and for a partner to nope half of my already-limited kinks list they'd have to be more vanilla than I am...and I'd be just fine with that. So the first option for me.
Would you rather write a story set in the Roman Empire during the time of Julius Cesar, or a story set in the Macedonian Empire under Alexander the Great?
Would you rather write a story set in the Roman Empire during the time of Julius Cesar, or a story set in the Macedonian Empire under Alexander the Great?