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Jinora

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And sites like it.

Like not really. I often get a lot of enjoyment out of this site. I just think there is a lot of wasted potential when sex is assumed every time and you can't just expect your partner not to automatically be a pervert. When the situation hits where I just want to roleplay a fandom story for a few hours without worrying about cock size or breast size this site annoys me.

Where can you roleplay with other adults about adult things where sex isn't the basis or foundation of the entire roleplay?

Don't say here, because that's rare. Everyone's first questions are always about kinks or dick size/breast size. I find sex scenes repetitive. They're fine but they're grating and I'm happy when they're over so we can get back to what I find interesting, dialog, emotions, and character development. I shouldn't find more of that writing pg 13 pokemon with 12 year olds on proboards than I do here, and yet that seems to be the case. So what gives? Why can't we just write young adult themed fandom stories with other adults without dragging our character's junk into it every 10 minutes? I am not against smut totally but when your first question is about kinks just fuck off. Figure out my character's kinks by getting to know her.
 
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There are some good writers here, though they're not always active or looking for the same thing…
I think I've never had someone start with asking "sizes". I'd laugh and say good bye (if I'm in a good mood?). In fact I've rarely been asked for sizes and the few times it happened, the RP died quite soon (and I didn't provide them). Kinks shouldn't be the first question, though they'll have to be discussed unless the game remains PG-13 - or Something. It helps to make a profile where you state what kind of game and cowriter you are looking for.
 
I like to RP around 70-30 to 50-50 plot to smut. My general flow chart for making an RP with someone is:
1. introductions, throw around a few plot ideas.
2. discuss kinks. Nothing kills an RP faster than a character trying to do something the other person hates. I form most of my plots around what kinks people want included, so everyone is happy, even if its a more plot-centric RP and we won't get to the kinks for like... 3-4 months into an RP.
3. Discuss solid proper plot, get a world established, a brief idea of what we want to happen.
4. Characters, detailed bios, picture options.
5. Anything else?
6. Start.
 
Oh Jinora there are times I feel your pain, but I have found some writers on here that are not like you said. I'm a lot like you in that result. I don't mind adult content but give me something other than a god damn porno at least sometimes. Clearly stating expectations in your Request Thread does help.
 
I like that honestly. Ask for what you want at the beginning if that is what you want PG-13. Then request that. It doesn't hurt. You get what you want and everyone knows what to expect.
 
I mean, your newest request thread seems like it could go either way in terms of plot or smut. Have you considered changing your own request thread in order to get the results that you want?
 
But PG 13 doesn't just mean no sex scenes, what about violence or dark mature themes that have nothing to do with getting anyone's rocks off. Horror Genres, or rps about suicide or soldiers. That's my whole point. I'm still an adult and I want to rp with adults and yeah sometimes sex scenes are nice but only if they happen naturally and are an element of an already great rp. My issue with this site is that the sex scenes are expected immediately. And there are no alternative sites which are just mature themes and sex is a maybe by default rather than a fundamental absolute yes to the point where the size of my characters breasts are more important than her personality to some perverted idiots who message me.

If the rp doesn't stand on it's own without the sex scene then I don't want the sex scene. If it does, then I welcome the sex scene as long as it's seen as a privilege rather than an automatic birthright to my partner. I roleplayed adventure, character development, and world building long before I rped smut and I need those things as fundamentals.

On my checklist:

Plot
Setting
Characters
Direction
Adventure
Fun
All come BEFORE smut.
 
I am not saying non-smut. I am saying non-smut-FOCUSED. This forum is FOCUSED on sex when it should just be focused on being a haven for adult themes instead. All adult themes. Smut is just one element to adult writing but it's in the foreground overshadowing everything here. Why can't it just be a thing that might happen rather than an expectation every goddamn time?
 
I make it very clear in my request thread and then by talking to people beforehand that I need plot to carry sex scenes. I have some RP that goes for weeks until sex happens and then only sparingly, and some where it happens a lot more often but is still part of a rather good plot. Just sex doesn't do it for me. Asking kinks beforehand though is sort of important otherwise you may have written for several weeks just to find out you hate what that person is into and vice versa.

Just sex is boring, which is why 90% of the time I refuse to RP slice of life as I have found those to devolve into just sex after way too short time. I have exactly one modern RP going but my partner has been awesome and there is a lot more story than sex. Perfect. I think maybe you need to communicate your wants a little more forcefully. Tell people on no uncertain terms how you want things to be and if you get the feeling they might not jive with that, move on to the next potential rper.
 
"I refuse to RP slice of life as I have found those to devolve into just sex after way too short time. "

My slice of life rps don't devolve into that. Slice of life exploring real people with real problems are my favorite type of roleplays because they're the only type of roleplays that actually make me a better writer. Because they get into psychology. You can't hide behind explosions or lasers or super powers. It's just you, your human oc, and their personality. When you do go off and write fandoms and adventure rps you have a better grasp of psychology as a result of doing slice of life. And then you can add in slice of life to super heroes or sex scenes too. Make your characters more natural.
 
Or you can just offer a section for more slow burning rps. I don't have a problem with eventual smut, so I don't think we are on the same page.
 
That is a good point, but my RL is all about problem solving working and managing a teen with autism I dare say my RP escape I do like to be as far from that as I can get away with :) Though not into super powers or fandom either, original settings only and lots of world building. Office type romances and the other slice of life stuff just isn't for me, as I said in my experience they are too much sex too fast and I have rules about that with the hubby, when we rp we do not go for RL scenarios, It makes him uncomfortable and as such that has to be respected. And my experiences with slice of life was like so much sex all the time that my husband got pretty crabby. And I got just plain bored xD

That being said there are actually quite a few sites that allow dark gritty adult themes and are not focused on sex, however they are usually more geared towards a specific theme. Look for non premium jcink hosted sites they are not allowed to focus on sex or RP it out in the open as per terms of service. I have tons of links should you be interested.
 
If you're looking for slow burning, long term, adult themed but not sex-oriented RPs, feel free to PM me and we could look at a few ideas together. I really like horror, drama and action. So what I can say is, you just have to find a few loyal long-term partners that match up with your expectations, you don't need to find another forum or alter this forum to change it's course. Make sure your request thread highlists your wishes and needs more, and I'm sure you'll find people here too.
 
This site is very much immersed in the more sexual RP outlet and it is very much geared toward that.

I think it more depends on how you word and create your own request thread that will lead you to the people you are looking for, Jinora.

And those people ARE very much out there. I’ve found my “RP StarLord” and I am very much content with him! Actually......he found me because of my request thread. I am very much into more story telling than I am into fucking for fucks sake. My request thread probably looks pretty boring to a lot of people on here. But I don’t care, I want what I want and I make it very clear in my thread. I have other partners as well that lean more toward story than smut as well, so I know for a fact they are out there, you just have to make the concentrated effort to lure them out of hiding. I’ve had to turn down a lot of people because they wanted just sex or things that weren’t my bag. I’ve also been rejected quite a few times because of the same things.

All I can suggest is to keep pushing forward but much as in real life.....”You’re gonna kiss a lot of frogs before you find your true Prince.”
 
I was admin of a pokemon proboard and a long time member of a star wars proboard way before I ever wrote any smut at all. I guess I just long for the days when it was about wonder and adventure. I can't even go on those sites anymore because it's weird. I'm 29. Maybe I just hate being an adult. I'm still reading some replies here. I might just pm people because it's becoming overwhelming.
 
Not trying to be mean but what exactly are you looking for honestly? This site has a lot of focus on the sexual side of roleplays true but then there are some people who find story driven roleplays more appealing. I like story driven roleplays and if the circumstances in those roleplays is right, I don't mind sex but it is what it is. If you don't mind sex but don't want it to be the focus of your roleplays you should put that in your request thread. I've browsed some of the interest checks you had available and sorry to say I couldn't find anything that states leaning more on plots of story.

If people do things you don't want, ignore them. There are writers that share your view you just have to be prepared to continue to look if you want what you're looking for.
 
A lot of people want smut focused rps. Not everyone, and I have had plenty of amazing plot focused rps, but you are going to have to sift through a lot of partners to find what you want. I haven't looked at your newest RT, but the last I looked at it, you had a bunch of pairings listed. Which lends itself to people looking for smut, and not people looking for plot focused rps. I only saw one plot seed on your RT, which also doesn't suggest you are looking for plot focused rt.

Including more plot seeds, clearly laying out your expectations, and including an easy to find kink list (on your rt or signature) would greatly improve your experience. I hope you find a partner or group that suits your needs.
 
I think a big part of this is your approach in constructing a narrative. A lot of people are going to bring up kinks because those are the area most likely to break an RP so they'd rather get it over with sooner rather than later. Hell, one of the RPs I'm in (technically it's on hiatus until my partner finishes moving) that's super character-focused, adult-themed, with sex on the back burner, started when I asked my partner "Hey, your idea sounds cool but you like a lot of edgy shit that's a turn off for me. Can we work around that?". A month and a half later, we've got some really compelling characters and plot sketched out, and the whole thing is basically musing on faith, tradition, and prophecy in the form of a divine road trip. The shit you're looking for can happen here, I swear.

Here's a straightforward process I do for plot-heavy RPs that might work for you:

A) First establish that you want something with a slow burn and emphasis on the plot/characters. Don't be afraid to put off certain specifics until later.

B) After you know what you want to play, find out *who* you want to play. Anyone can be a halfling ranger, but nobody forgets a sexy shoeless god of war.

C) Ask your partner about their character. Don't write it for them, but if you don't really have a feel for who they're playing, then ask until you do.

incendonocturne said:
All I can suggest is to keep pushing forward but much as in real life.....”You’re gonna kiss a lot of frogs before you find your true Prince.”
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Preach.
 
It might've been mentioned in above replies, but Gaiaonline is what you're looking for. Similar format to here, fandoms abound, and although there are often romantic themes in the rps, smut isn't the focus. I frequent and enjoy it a lot c: (Though you do have to be more mindful of the ages of other users; not all of them will be adults)
 
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