Raina_Reader said:
Well one of your plots contains blackmail, which would certainly qualify as nonconsensual.
The Slave one too. Because, you know, slave. unless it's some kind of willing slave kind of deal but the wording of the plot was vague.
First I'm going to say I'm not trying to argue here. I'm the one who doesn't get it, so I'm not telling you you're wrong. But where I'm coming from, I don't see it that way just yet:
The blackmail plot is literally, "I caught you doing a thing, you should be more careful. Now, see this blackmail material? I am putting it in a shredder. I have no more material. Now that I cannot blackmail you...wanna hook up?"
With the slave story, I understand that slaves can't consent because they have no say in the situation. But, what happens when a slave doesn't mind their situation? For instance, "You, slave, I know that you are hungry right now, and you love chocolate milkshakes. I order you to eat this milkshake." Is the milkshake consumption still non-consent? A slightly different situation: "Slave, I will give this taco to you if you say you would like this taco." Even if the slave wants the taco and asks for the taco, they still can't consent to the taco because they are a slave, right?
If a teacher hits on a student, isn't that dubcon purely because the teacher has power over the student? It doesn't matter whether the student is like "hell yes", the power imbalance makes it dubcon? Because that's what it seems to be with the slave situation.
The way I understood dubious consent is like, being cornered by a situation but there's no force involved. "I do not want to do this, but there are consequences if I don't, so I go along with it."
What I'm okay with is a situation where there is some degree of pressure, but A) the character is okay with doing what's being asked, and B) saying "no" is an instant eject button out of the situation with no consequences. I don't know what that is defined as.
All that said, I do strongly disagree with something.
but the tag for added humiliation says the opposite, as humiliation is generally non-consensual.
I have no idea where you got that impression. Saying humiliation is generally non-con is like saying bondage is generally non-con. Humiliation is just emotional masochism; instead of wanting you to slap me, I want you to demean me.