Ladies, do you look at the request threads of possible partners?

[Deante]

New to forum RPing, I'm trying to get a handle on how things typically go down on sites like this. One thing that initially intrigued me were request threads, and how I've had to repeat the same things in PMs multiple times. Making my own request thread would be a convenient way to cut through a lot of that!

And then I thought "Wait. I'm a guy. Will they even look?"

See, where I'm coming from is the online dating scene, where women don't message guys first. They wait for men to come to them. So here I am thinking that if a potential partner messages you here, you're going to go by their messages, not go investigate them, and certainly not go over to the Requests forum and send first contact messages based on what you see.

Am I off base? Do some ladies out there make first contact?

 

[Deante]

The overwhelming response to this fills me with such confidence.

 

[Xanaphia]

Considering that I approach as often as I am approached, yes. Even once we've started an rp, I like to incorporate my partner's wants, so I will use their RT to figure out what they are.

 

[newblood]

I approach first all the time. When people approach me first, I review the heck out of their request threads and past posts to see if our writing will mesh/ our desires are aligned.

 

[Prose]

Hey Deante,

I do all of the above. If I post a RT or bump it, it is usually because I've got a craving. When I'm craving something, I usually let my RT do the weeding out for me. If a member contacts me, I usually do take a look at their profile and then click on previous posts & threads so that I can get a glimpse at their writing style and their overall preferences.

When I'm not with a current craving, I usually do not bump my RT, so I do most of my RP hunting by visiting other RT's. It is a great way to get inspired, because you can stumble across some really great ideas from other members, or even discover a new member that you might mesh well with.

I'm certain that the ladies contact the men aplenty. I've posted a thread in the male section before since I'm willing to write as both genders, and I've gotten several PM's expressing interest.

A thing to remember is that members can vary greatly in browsing times, not just in times of the day, but in spouts of availability or interest. Sometimes people just don't have much time to seek out RP due to family in town, exams/finals, work deadlines or other real life interference (bc let's face it, RL interferes with our playtime!).

You might try going with broad strokes in your RT's, so that you're appealing to a wider range of writers. By broad strokes, I mean including as many genres & scenarios that you'd enjoy writing. In the same breath, only include what you want to write. It is your RT, so be sure to make it express your interests so that you're mainly getting messages from people who share similar interests.

I wouldn't worry about your concern of getting a lack of messages from 'the ladies'. I think you'll find our ladies to be quite confident in what they're after and more than willing to message you should your RT interest them. As always, happy writing to you and your writing partners!

~ Prose

 

[Amaranthine]

I'll approach anyone who catches my eye, and if someone messages me the first thing I do (after reading the message itself and determining based on that if I'm interested in looking further) is search out their request thread and writing samples. Not having a request thread and/or public writing = not going to take a chance on you, most of the time. I'll browse the request threads forums (though mainly the females forum as I rarely search out m/f writing) when I'm looking to pick up a new partner occasionally and I highly doubt I'm the only one (especially based on the poll results).

 

[Deante]

Thanks for all the replies! I'm glad to see everyone so proactive. I put up a request thread and actually got a message rather quickly.

A nice community here, I feel fairly welcomed.

 

[RedRose]

On here I'll certainly message a guy. On a dating app/site, I want to be chosen and pursued. IRL too.

 

[Chai]

I do browse through male request threads. Quite frequently, too, I might add. Women definitely approach guys for roleplay here. This isn't some dating site, so the gender expectations aren't the same.

But more than that, if a guy--or lady--sends me a PM expressing interest, I absolutely go and find their request thread. That's your first impression to any potential partner. Well, aside from them browsing through your actual posts. It cuts out a lot of intro work as far as mentioning everything you're interested in. Of course you can always go over some stuff that you'd like to reiterate, but it'll give that person a better idea of whether they want to RP with you or not.

This does, however, also mean that you should put up a pretty strong req thread. I don't know how it is for others around here, but I can safely say that if I see a lot of errors or unpleasantness in a request thread, it's an automatic rejection for me.

 

[EnglishRose]

I look, its the only way I can make approaches, by trying to find people with similar tastes.

 

[Praxis]

I'm usually skulking about in the weeds looking for a male writer I click with. I get tired of skimming through the same requests for things I'm just not interested in. So I fear that elusive unicorn of a writer may slip by me amidst a downpour of tentacle porn

 

[DangerousDanielle2]

Yes I do and I do it often.....I mean, you wouldn't buy a car without taking it for a test drive first, would you?