C
Chai
Guest
I was looking through past and present face claims that I've used for roleplays, and I realized just how similar they all are: the young, wide-eyed look, slim, pouty lips, long hair, and fair skin. I think this has just evolved into the 'norm' for attractiveness in roleplays, especially because anything that deviates from that is some sort of fetish. If you like playing as or against women other than white girls, people assume you like race play; if you don't want to play as or against perfectly slim woman, you have a thing for BBWs; if you don't like playing as or against young women, you're into MILFs; the list goes on.
I get that what we're writing is all fantasy, and that because it's fantasy, why not make all of your characters the epitome of attractiveness? Add to it that many people use erotic roleplaying as a sexual release, and I'm going to assume that people would rather get off to someone they find attractive than to someone they think is ugly (though that fetish exists out there, I know).
I know that when writing descriptions or choosing face claims, it's always easier to go with the standard of beauty in order to please a partner. I've had that weird moment when a partner says I can make my character look however I want, and then when I write a description/choose a face claim, they tell me to change her because they don't find her attractive. And so, for me at least, I've just subconsciously settled into looking for similar features over and over again.
But I also know that there is so much to beauty and attractiveness, both in real life and in roleplaying, but for some reason people don't voice it in request threads. And while I wrote this from the female perspective, I am well aware that men also have their vision of perfection in roleplays.
Here are some discussion points:
1) If you think there's a beauty standard in roleplaying, what do you think it is? For men and women? Where do you think it came from? Do you think it's a reflection of the beauty ideals we have in real life?
2) Why do you think other physical preferences are seen as fetishes? Do you think the fetish label is a deterrent for being vocal about those physical preferences (i.e., "I don't want to be seen as someone who's into that fetish")?
3) Beauty can be found everywhere; what are some physical traits that you find attractive, either in real life or in roleplaying, that deviate from the beauty standard? What are some uncommon things you find attractive that aren't normally talked about under attractiveness? (e.g., I find full, thick eyebrows on men very sexy. I also like playing a variety of races and ethnicity in roleplays, but a lot of people have responded with, "I don't like race play," as if it's a strange concept seeing other races and people of mixed heritage in 21st century United States :s).
I get that what we're writing is all fantasy, and that because it's fantasy, why not make all of your characters the epitome of attractiveness? Add to it that many people use erotic roleplaying as a sexual release, and I'm going to assume that people would rather get off to someone they find attractive than to someone they think is ugly (though that fetish exists out there, I know).
I know that when writing descriptions or choosing face claims, it's always easier to go with the standard of beauty in order to please a partner. I've had that weird moment when a partner says I can make my character look however I want, and then when I write a description/choose a face claim, they tell me to change her because they don't find her attractive. And so, for me at least, I've just subconsciously settled into looking for similar features over and over again.
But I also know that there is so much to beauty and attractiveness, both in real life and in roleplaying, but for some reason people don't voice it in request threads. And while I wrote this from the female perspective, I am well aware that men also have their vision of perfection in roleplays.
Here are some discussion points:
1) If you think there's a beauty standard in roleplaying, what do you think it is? For men and women? Where do you think it came from? Do you think it's a reflection of the beauty ideals we have in real life?
2) Why do you think other physical preferences are seen as fetishes? Do you think the fetish label is a deterrent for being vocal about those physical preferences (i.e., "I don't want to be seen as someone who's into that fetish")?
3) Beauty can be found everywhere; what are some physical traits that you find attractive, either in real life or in roleplaying, that deviate from the beauty standard? What are some uncommon things you find attractive that aren't normally talked about under attractiveness? (e.g., I find full, thick eyebrows on men very sexy. I also like playing a variety of races and ethnicity in roleplays, but a lot of people have responded with, "I don't like race play," as if it's a strange concept seeing other races and people of mixed heritage in 21st century United States :s).