Ms_Muffintops
Supernova
- Joined
- Oct 12, 2009
- Location
- Drury Lane
I wasn't sure which section of the forum I should put this into, so I thought I'd shoot for this area. This topic is based around how attraction works - be it for you or for how you feel no matter who you are, how attraction works for people, humans, etc.
Basically all throughout my life I've been told that it all goes as such...
1. You meet this person.
2. You happen to notice that they are attractive.
3. It helps drive you into talking to them, you become friends or just acquaintances.
3. A little bond or connection is made, and the attraction grows.
4. An emotional connection develops
5. And thus romance blossoms.
But steps 3-5 can't happen if you take out #2.
I was just curious what other peoples thoughts were on this? How does it work for you? Do you think this is true or do you feel it is possible to happen through other means?
One thing that comes to mind for me that kind of negates this is demisexuality which I strongly identify with, and is very evident by my level of physical attraction in ratio with my chemistry and connection to the person. The stronger the connection I have to the person the more physically attracted I am to them and typically I can't even imagine having sex with someone, no matter how attractive they are, until I have developed a romantic attachment to them.
Basically all throughout my life I've been told that it all goes as such...
1. You meet this person.
2. You happen to notice that they are attractive.
3. It helps drive you into talking to them, you become friends or just acquaintances.
3. A little bond or connection is made, and the attraction grows.
4. An emotional connection develops
5. And thus romance blossoms.
But steps 3-5 can't happen if you take out #2.
I was just curious what other peoples thoughts were on this? How does it work for you? Do you think this is true or do you feel it is possible to happen through other means?
One thing that comes to mind for me that kind of negates this is demisexuality which I strongly identify with, and is very evident by my level of physical attraction in ratio with my chemistry and connection to the person. The stronger the connection I have to the person the more physically attracted I am to them and typically I can't even imagine having sex with someone, no matter how attractive they are, until I have developed a romantic attachment to them.