Veiled_Desire
Super-Earth
- Joined
- Jan 15, 2018
Greetings everyone. I recently had an experience with this topic and I wanted to see how everyone else handles it. As an initial matter, I think it is important to remember that we all get very passionate about writing and that this thread should make sure to stay in line with the rules of Bluemoon. With that being said, please make sure that any discussions involved do not violate
With that being said, I wanted to see how people react to this happening and how it effects their writing going forward. I, unfortunately, have ghosted stories in the past due to my own personal issues, but I have never ghosted a first post. I have, on the other hand, had many writers ghost my opening posts. While I can say that no one has an obligation to write with you, and that people are allowed to lose interest and move on, it does seem particularly painful to spend hours discussing a plot and planning out a full blown story with someone only to have them not only ignore your first post, but seem to drop off the face of the planet entirely.
I have tried to minimize this from happening by having posts in threads to show people how I tend to write as well as to ask plenty of questions before starting, and yet it doesn't seem to make too much of a difference.
So have you ever found strategies to work that help reduce first post ghosting? Have you continued to try and reach out to the person after they don't respond?
Another issue I have run into is when to check in on my partner. Sometimes I can send a full post that took me a few hours to write only to not hear back at all. A few days can pass and then suddenly I get a response, or it can be weeks with nothing. I don't want to spam someone's inbox and ask if they got the first post or not, but at the same time I would like to know if they are interested in writing.
So have you found a good strategy for seeing if the first post was acceptable without seeming desperate and needy for a response?
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With that being said, I wanted to see how people react to this happening and how it effects their writing going forward. I, unfortunately, have ghosted stories in the past due to my own personal issues, but I have never ghosted a first post. I have, on the other hand, had many writers ghost my opening posts. While I can say that no one has an obligation to write with you, and that people are allowed to lose interest and move on, it does seem particularly painful to spend hours discussing a plot and planning out a full blown story with someone only to have them not only ignore your first post, but seem to drop off the face of the planet entirely.
I have tried to minimize this from happening by having posts in threads to show people how I tend to write as well as to ask plenty of questions before starting, and yet it doesn't seem to make too much of a difference.
So have you ever found strategies to work that help reduce first post ghosting? Have you continued to try and reach out to the person after they don't respond?
Another issue I have run into is when to check in on my partner. Sometimes I can send a full post that took me a few hours to write only to not hear back at all. A few days can pass and then suddenly I get a response, or it can be weeks with nothing. I don't want to spam someone's inbox and ask if they got the first post or not, but at the same time I would like to know if they are interested in writing.
So have you found a good strategy for seeing if the first post was acceptable without seeming desperate and needy for a response?