ONS & OFFS
Oral (giving and receiving)
Body worship in general
Light bondage
Interracial relationships (no racism or raceplay/racial stereotypes)
Copious foreplay (I admit liking to focus on this more than the penetration itself)
BDSM with a loving, caring vibe
Double penetration
Aphrodisiacs (only to heighten sensitivity and pleasure, not cloud/blunt judgment or remove free will)
Ladies with a praise kink
Use of magic/powers during sex (no mind control or removal/subversion of free will) | Anal/assplay and rimming (100% clean at all times)
Curvy women (particularly if older/more mature)
Uniform/outfit play (women wearing lingerie, seductive nightgowns, power suits/skirts, office wear, heels, skirts, etc.)
Women wearing nylons/pantyhose/stockings (whether with lingerie or hidden underneath a skirt/dress)
MC making YC orgasm via aggressive/forcefully-given cunnilingus
Bossy/bratty female powerbottoms
Clothed or partially-clothed sex
Light foodplay
Orgasm control/denial
Sensory play |
✓ Equal/"switch" pairing dynamics!
This is my favorite character dynamic for the most part. Set-in-stone, unchanging "sub/dom" roles don't really appeal to me. I vastly prefer pairings where both parties are in a constant flux of give-and-take and equally capable of taking charge in (and out) of the bedroom: Swapping roles according to situational wants and desires, engaging in regular one-upmanship and power plays, simply sharing sex as just that and tossing aside the sub/dom dynamic altogether, etc.
✓ Confident badass females!
In short, I'm looking for partners who'll play
strong-minded, adventurous, confident, capable Action Girls with fire in their hearts. Ladies who will challenge and
be challenged by MC as rivals/friends/lovers in a positive fashion [iron sharpening iron to make each other better], rather than a negative one [each looking to degrade/destroy and ruin each other].) Some specific archetypes I love seeing partners play:
- The strong girl to MC's smart guy, and/or energetic girl to MC's savvy guy.
- Pretty, powerful (and pretty powerful) princesses.
- Damsels Out of Distress (clever, determined, and defiant damsels who look to save themselves).
- Alluring, glamorous Action Fashionistas who stay raw, stand tall, and still look fuckin' cute!
- Proud, fearsome Lovable Alpha Bitches (think Regina George from Mean Girls) and deadly Dark Action Girls (think Shego from Kim Possible or Azula from Avatar [minus the sociopathy]) with strong personalities who frequently get their way.
- Elegant Ladies of War with iron in their spines and Silk Hiding Steel-types who love their neighbors, but won't take their shit.
- Tough, self-assured Amazonian Beauties that know their self-worth, take no crap, and can put a guy in place with a smart/sharp comment or blazing look.
- Cheerful, spirited Girly Bruisers who're proud, passionate, and full of life (like if someone "took energy drinks, rave parties, overly excited puppies and the metaphorical concept of happiness and mixed them all together in a blender") is very much a fave.
✓ Non-toxic romance and relationships!
Wholesome, loving fluff where the characters have a healthy and generally positive union, they mutually support each other, and living
happily isn't the same thing as living boringly? I'm game for that. A
rivals-
turned-
partners where the heat of said rivalry
extends to their love life? I'm game for that too.
✓ Female-led relationships!
Pairings where the female is the more assertively/aggressively badass one who
generally takes the lead, has no problem
making the first move or taking charge in the bedroom and can be
fiercely protective, and the guy's totally fine with that. (That said, I wouldn't be playing the male as some painfully helpless/pathetic mess.)
✓ Gentle, loving/seductive femdom!
Femdom devoid of abuse, degradation/emasculation, humiliation or negativity. The female's satisfaction is contingent on mutual desire and bliss, built upon a healthy, equally loving and respectful relationship. (Naturally, I'd love to combine this with the above entry.
) MC would have no problem falling to his knees and worshipping his partner from head to toe. It wouldn't be so much about the male "submitting" as it is about him pleasing the female, stroking her uppish prideful desires while satisfying some of his own.
✓ Clean footplay-particularly craving!
Foot worship, massaging/caressing, footjobs, licking, kissing, toe sucking...basically, the male character giving focused attention to a female character's bare or nylon/pantyhose-covered legs and feet. I'd want this to be something
both partners are comfortable with and genuinely enjoy: Sexy teasing between lovers (or rivals), a welcome extension of foreplay and general body worship in fully savoring the female form, an exploration of something new that the recipient finds to be very much to their liking...that sort of thing.
Not interested in unhygienic/gross feet, or having footplay be used to degrade/humiliate/abuse someone and make them "less than".
✓ Battle couples!
Two equally/complimentarily-skilled badasses who
love each other, challenge/motivate each other to be the best version of themselves, and (most importantly) always have each other's back.
Yesssssss. (That said, this doesn't automatically mean the couple
has to be virtuous.)
✓ Domme dissonance!
A dynamic where MC is ordinarily subordinate to YC, yet they maintain the pretense of their original power dynamic in the bedroom (such as MC calling her "Miss/Boss/Empress" even as she's at his mercy).
✓ Rough loving passion (with general consideration for the other party as the governing philosophy)!
Biting, whipping, scratching,
Interplay of Sex and Violence, fight-fucking, electric toys,
Destructo-Nookie...I'm fine with these elements as long as
sensual aftercare (if needed) are involved. Pounding someone into the mattress—or against a wall—without treating them as a worthless slut or fucktoy is the key here.
✓ Erotic peril and damsel-in-distress kink/play with a campy Saturday morning villain cartoon feel!
I'd want to maintain a tongue-in-cheek—even
sweet—vibe where the male "inflicts" pleasure on the "distressed damsel" to tease and (enjoyably) please her into submission. Copious caresses, kissing, fondling, blindfolds, ropes (especially if the bonds have special qualities, such as psychoactives, weakening, electricity, or otherwise supplementary effects due to being bound), spanking, teasing-and-denial, strip-teasing, ladies in lingerie/dresses, sensory play, gentle domination, possible use of sex toys, forced orgasms, forcibly-given pleasure, aftercare and seduction...that sort of thing.
Not looking for "bad ends" or scenarios with a genuinely non-con/"rapey" vibe (the female character sincerely hating the experience or being brutalized/"broken" into compliance.
MAYBES
CNC play and consensual feigned resistance
3+ penetration
Anal sex (MC receiving)
Heavy bondage
50s housewife aesthetic (partner character)
Pegging (MC receiving)
Prostitution | Light weaponplay
Forcibly given pleasure
Transgender females (partner character)
Unusual semen
Ladies with cocks
Voyeurism
Somnophilia/sleepy sex |
▷ Lighthearted forced pleasure/orgasms?
A scenario where the female is teased and (mutually enjoyably) pleasured into submission, it being an enjoyable—even eye-opening—experience for her. At best, I'm open to a dare between willing rivals, or something where explorative teasing and surprising pleasure is the endgame. This is the closest I'll go to doing dub-con. The woman being annoyed, snarky and aggravated about the situation is fine. Her totally and sincerely hating the experience, or being brutalized/tortured/"broken" into compliance?
Not fine.
OFFS
Characters under 21
Non-con and rape
Lines and scenarios where "asshole vs. asshole" is the main conflict
Virginity (both as a fetish and as a plot focus)
Innocent naïve ingenues
Passive, helpless damsels-in-perpetual-distress | "Pillow princess" submissives
Emasculation and degradation
Bimbofication
Infidelity
Shaming or bashing "vanilla sex"
Fetishizing/glamourizing/romanticizing trauma or abuse |
✗ Grimdark.
Aggressively "dark" and angst/tragedy-driven lines focused on
hyper-cynical and nihilistic self-seriousness, bad ends or general toxicity. Existence is
24/7 Dickensian-level suck and brutal systemic oppression, every display of altruism invariably lays the foundation for future cynical treachery or horrific atrocity, virtually everyone's
a loathsome barely functional pile of desensitized sociopathic assholery, and mercy, hope and emotional attachment are actively sneered at--or constantly punished--by the setting and writer's narrative choices.
✗ Sex negativism.
Situations where sex is frequently portrayed as an intrinsically corrupting/sinister/evil act, a vindictive punishment, a degrading/manipulative power play, or a
miserable begrudgingly-endured obligation.
✗ Raceplay.
Racial stereotypes and anything associated with romanticizing/eroticizing racism or themes of "racial superiority".
✗ Discrimination.
I'm not looking to have any form of discrimination (racism, sexism, transphobia, homophobia, etc.) be romanticized, glamourized, fetishized or normalized in a line.
✗ Femdom (cruel or hateful).
Femdom centered around sadism, genital violence/abuse (CBT, castration, ballbusting, etc.), emasculation, sissification, or having the male character be degraded/humiliated and stripped of his self-worth. Leave all that stuff at the door, please.
✗ Aggressively antagonistic/miserable/desensitized "2darkntortured4u!" edgelords who lovvvvve their pain.
✗ Female un-friendly sexuality.
Settings and situations where a woman who enjoys sex on her own terms is invariably punished, lessened in status, brutally humiliated/degraded or raped to "learn a lesson/learn her place".
✗ Toxic relationships with a victim-and-victimizer vibe.
Relationships built on a foundation of serial betrayal, romanticized abuse, hateful/cynical dickishness and
concentrated emotional sadomasochism, where one character regularly dehumanizes/humiliates/degrades their partner and takes their pleasure at said partner's expense.
✗ Filth and general grossness.
"Slobby" characters, bad hygiene, graphic/extended torture, gore, bodily secretions, STDs, anything that is expelled through an ass, and anything that belongs in a toilet or biohazard waste container. (Sweat's fine, but let's assume characters have showered within the past few hours.)
✗ Mind control and creepy coercive trickery.
Brainwashing, hypnosis, overriding magical or psychic compulsions that subvert/remove free will, impaired awareness due to being drugged or stumbling drunk, and anything that alters a character's right mind.